Since I cannot stop thinking about blogging (that is not entirely true), I figured I would throw a little something up on the blog today. And since I have no original content to post (I been studying, so original content will have to wait another week or so), I figured I would post something that has been floating on and off the net for quite some time. It is “supposedly” a letter and response written to Sister2Sister Magazine covering the highly debated topic of interracial dating. I say “supposedly” because while I have seen this letter/response more than once, I have never witnessed the actual article. Either way, it is an interesting (albeit slightly absurd) article. Enjoy the heavily filled with over-the-top stereotypes reading. And post a comment or two if you feel the urge.
Dear Sister2Sister:
I’m sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don’t understand a lot of Black female’s attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don’t they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we’re out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes…I could go on and on. But, right now, I’m a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don’t be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I’m wrong, Black men, let me know.
Jamie, Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA
RESPONSE:
Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered “easy”.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don’t want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!It is because of the black women’s strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them.
It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don’t you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty
So there you have it. I told you it was filled with some over-the-top stereotypes. I personally find it a little laughable. The two writers just seem a bit too extreme and a bit too “definite” (I think this way, so therefore ALL people think this way) to really influence my own opinions on the subject. But, to each their own.
138 Comments
I’m so tired of hearing the black woman/white woman debate (probably because I am neither). I might not know what it is like to be white or black, but I know that if you look back in history, you will find woman in every race go through struggle. As well there are virtuous and not-so virtuous woman of every race. This article upsets me, and if it really was published in a magazine, shame on that magazine for doing NOTHING to help race relations.
As a decendent of the Kings and Queens of Africa I love and possess a unbreakable love for my people and our culture. Although I do believe that love does come in any color and that no one should be charged to only love a man/woman of their race, I also believe it is shameful act to prefer women in general of a different ethnic group over the women of your ethnicity. It’s a grave insult. In addition, to ms_canadia because you are neither a “black” or white woman you will never understand the full extinct of this issue in regards to these two specific races. (I’m not stating that this issue does not exist between other ethnic groups or even that “black” or white women don’t feel the same towards women of other races dating their men, I’m just addressing the situation at hand.) And although I respect your opinion that maybe Sister2Siter did not help in acheiving “racial harmony” (I made that up), it is also important to address issues that exist in society, furthermore this white women wrote the magazine in search of the outlook of “black” men and so her request was met. She was extreme and highly disrespectful to “black” women in her letter and I think that honestly there was no better medicine for her than a response from a “black” man who strongly disagrees and covets the “black” woman. It was a highlight that this “black” man was educated and accomplished since her letter proves that she believes these type of “black” men only go for white women, it was also a pleasure of mine to read his letter where he reminded her of the origin of “blac”k women for you see “black” is a name given to African decendants who were brought to america as slaves in an effort to strip us of our royalness and our feelings of connection to our origin, Africa. He pleased me further when he began to name white men who prefer african women, now dont get me wrong it is still a slap to the face of the mother who bears a child who ultimately grows up and doesnt have the upmost pride, love and respect for their own women, however she needed to be reminded that this does not only exist in african man and that african women are coveted all around the globe, especially in USA where the white women as he stated: tan, and alter their bodies in an effort to resemble us (african women). So i enjoyed the article it was a reality check for that foolish woman and I’m sure it opened eyes of african men and even influenced additional pride in the “proud and not so proud ” population of african women. BLACK MEN-I LOVE YOU TOO.
I just want to thank the black man for the reply on this particular comment. People try to sugar coat the issue and it is annoying to me. I am a product of an interracial marriage except my dad is Italian and my mom is mixed with black and white. I hate seeing black men with white women exclusively. Ok yes we should all be ok to date whom ever we choose, however it annoys me when a man purposely pick a white woman and only dates white women. I am an educated black woman. Intelligent and very pretty. I have modeled in the past and have never had a problem trying to find or get a man. I am however light bright, damn near white and it annoys me that men want me only because I am considered a “yellow bone”. I am just happy that a man has the courage to say the things he did and I applaud him for speaking the truth. Yes it is the truth that most black men want white women because they are easier to get into the sac and when has anyone gone to a club that has white women and they were not there making out with the first man they saw drunk as hell!!! Sorry to curse…oh well God Bless!!!
okay i’m gonna break this thing down and finally say what is true. as a white woman/ sexy, strong, intellectual, yet kind at heart. i love having a nice tan, it makes these light green eyes shine. i feel like i glow. and yes i think black women are as a majority the most beautiful women in the world. if i was a man i would probably prefer a black woman over a white woman. however, i would want a woman that is kind and strong without all the extra self-centered i am queen this and that talk. not a weak woman, but a humble woman. if a black man prefers a black woman because she comes off with a black power attitude then as a white woman he would be undesirable to me. that would be the same as a white man sticking only to white women because of the same similar way of thinking as shown above. like i said i think he is correct about the girl drinking a little too much hater-aid. as a white woman you gotta give it up to the sistas for their beauty and confidence. if i were a man i would date black women first or maybe a killer looking interracial lady. i think to say that white women are easier is also a sign of some hater-aid being passed around. i could just easily say that black women are obviously easier if you check the stats on who has the most babies in their early teens. everybody needs to love one another and stop trippin over the small stuff. by the way, my man is black and he too thinks black women are of the most beautiful. however, he too is educated. but it is in wisdom rather than knowledge. therefore, it is not as simple as black or white. not as simple as queens and cave women or who has the most pre-marital sex. drink up all the knowledge in the world and you shall remain thirsty for what is truth, wisdom, love, and peace within the soul. good luck to all of you.
jah bless
well all I can say is this. I am a strong black educated female and yes I think that it is definitely true that black men are so into white women. They use the excuse of us have too much baggage. But the real issue is that we are strong willed sistas that refuse to be walked all over and allow black men to take advanage of us. As black women we have risen to the top on our own with having already 2 strikes ahead of us. When a black man turns away from his sistas to date nothing but white women, he is symbolizes his weakeness as a black man. but keep doing what you’re doing because, my black man is in my corner and we are very successful(oh yea I am a sista). When he lies and rises with me in the morning, he can’t understand most of the brothers out there.
my problem was a black man,i was not thuggish enough for black women,besides white skin is beautiful just like black skin,personally i prefer mexican/latino women
Just let these peopel be,I am a blackman I gave up on talking to black women ,they alsways turn me down
date mexican women
i have read what everyone has to say about the topic at hand,now it’s my turn.i am an african american woman and love that i am just that,i’ve seen beautiful white girls tan and pale,you have to look at race as a whole,we are born in this society to hate one another for whatever reason(there is so many) i know my own history and know that black girls were looked at as “objects” mostly sexual by the white man. nowdays i see alot of black men with white girls and i wonder is it that they really want the white lady or are they doing it because of the way white men looked at their queens?umm i wander. i feel it is your very own choice to date whoever you please but it should be done out of really loving the person.in closing i feel that as a whole human race we will never fully understand one another because we come from totally different backgrounds. thank you!
Hi my name is Nkeiruka and i am a strong, inteligent black women.
this year I entered college as a freshmen and was suprised to see that so many brothers were dating white women. Now dont get me wrong white women are beautiful people and I have white women friends, but it seems that now a days the new thing for black men is to date white women. This saddend me because the selection of good black men are slim to none. I am a nigerian decendent so Black/ african men will always be appealing to me first, but after my recent discovery I think i may now be more open to interacial relationships (not that I was not before).
And furthermore I honestly believe that the only reason black men find white women more attractive is because they are less authoritive and independent then black women. This may not be the case for all interracial relationships because I know that love has no boundries and sees no color, but it is time for black women and black men to start listening to each other and make relationships work.
As a white male I would like to address the subject. The reason that white women date black men are various. in my opinion it is the media that potrays it. I honestly see more bm/wf couples in advertising that all white couples. Most white women attend public school where there is no “european history month”. Whites have no race based college scholarships, no white based (mainstream) racial advocacy groups. No white based racial political leaders. No racial awareness (as a whole). White males in prison are raped at a rate of 140,000 per year acording to the Federal Bureau of prisons. According to FBI crime statitics around 90,000 women (of all races) report being raped. Whites account for lesss than 8% of the world’s population and our numbers are dwindling fast. Federal hate crime legislation does not include non-white races on white crimes. No organization, group, association, college, corporation can be all-white legally. Diversity, sensativity training, and multiculturalism are “force fed”. It is easier for whites to “sell out” their race than stand up for it. Within 100 years there will be no whites left in the face of the earth under current demographic changes. On top of that ALL european countries (formerly white homelands) are increasing third world (non white) immigration. And if a white person speaks out against any of this…..he/she is a racist! That is the reason that white women date black men…..for simple survival!
I think you love who you love man,life is too short.No one wants to be alone for there life.So let it be.I used to be kinda racist once I learned the bad history of the country.The only thing notice is that we blackmen date outside our race more than any other men.Blackmen lost their identity in slavery now we are getting our history and cultural back.I notice when people know their history and culture their is less race-mixing.I also notice that is not always the true.Women for some reason flock toward blackmen more than any other race.So what do you do.Readign ancient black history will wake up a lot of people.Like they say you don’t know where you are going until you know where you are coming from.Live in peace ,people.
Hi, Im a black male married to a black woman for 9 years, we both have multiple degrees hers in history mine in social and cultural geography. I’ve dated asian, and jewish women in the past in addition to black women,
Mainly due to my interest in their cultures and a lack of understanding of my own.
As I finished college and met my wife, her example over time showed me that my ignorance of the diversity of my people was the issue not how “black women act”. I was looking for an intellectual and cultural equal. I had foolishly thought because of 1-2 experiences and the media that I could not find that in a black woman (I too thought all of the good ones were married or taken), but I did and it has been the best event in my life.
A lot of black people who think that liking country, alternative, or classical music is not “black” or that reading sci-fi/fantasy is not “black” or that skateboarding or SCUBA is not “black” automatically feel that they have nothing in common with black people, they think they are some sort of special unique “exceptional” black person, and therefore should never associate with a black person of opposite gender because they aren’t on the same level.
Don’t think so? Go to any dating site sift through the entries for black men and women, notice how the hobbies of those who prefer to date outside of their ethnic group usually include key terms like “I like rock” or “I like anime” or “I like nascar”. They are screaming silently to all…”I am not like those OTHER black people, the hoochies and thugs, I’m different, I’m not your typical black man or woman”. It never occurs to them (or they feel better not considering) that there are indeed other black people of opposite gender just like them. No its easier to bash all black men or black women and look for acceptance elsewhere, its the easy convenient thing to do.
Black students tend to learn that black history is basically the history of slavery, we rarely get to learn of ancient black civilizations on the scale that we are required to learn about european, asian, middle eastern and even native american culture in k-12. We are taught that we have no control of our destiny that white people enslaved us and that white people freed us. This tends to undermine the confidence one has regarding the importance and value of their culture and themselves.
Slowly over time you either learn to stop feeling like you have to live up to (ie turn your back on all things black) or live down to (become a stereotype) the expectations white society has for black people. They might want Carlton from the Fresh Prince or Bel-Air or an Uncle Tom/Clown but you have to decide what it is you want for yourself. Is the key to happiness for your life acceptance by white people or another culture you feel is “better” than the mockery of black culture the media portays or acceptance of yourself as a unique individual black person?
Another thing people have to understand is that the media likes to encourage simple stereotypes and pit the men and women of black cultures against each other. Its why the Disney movie The Frog Prince originally scripted a black princess with a white prince (black men can’t be princes I guess) to encourage the notion that has long been displayed that a white mate is ideal or better than a mate of your own ethnicity. The Lion King easily could have been about actual africans, but no once again its better to have noble animals than noble africans.
The trend is now to focus on black women, to somehow convey that sexual interest from people who a mere 40-50 years ago were raping you and brutalizing your children is now a compliment. I have witnessed black women on a message board debate who the plantation owner found more attractive light skinned women or dark skinned women, as if this was a badge of honor.
The poem, The death of the strong black woman, that is so popular, blames her demise of all manner of weak, selfish, harmful black men and white women, but nowhere in the poem is the white man blamed for anything that contributes to her demise. Oh there is the vague comment on racism but never a direct accusation of the architect of this twisted racial hierarchy. Let’s not forget European culture is dominant because they sailed the world and brought violence, took lands by force when they were not given freely and killed anyone who stood against them for their own rights.
In closing, let me say I’m not anti-interracial relationships so much as I am anti-stereotyping that leads people to think that they can only be happy with someone not like them because they are too different from the stereotype. I say this because its painful to hear my niece say she wished my brother was white like their mother because then the white kids wouldn’t call her names, or because my aunt is married to an abusive white man because she started dating rural white guys because in her opinion the black guys were all players who didn’t want to marry anyone. I’m not a player I said, and she said no you are different, but I’m not I know too many other guys like me to believe that nonsense anymore.
I would hope anyone involved in an interracial marriage really love themselves and the person they are with not for what they look like or represent but simply for the collective personality in that grey matter, and being with someone from another culture doesn’t mean you need to put down your own culture or your opposite gender so that your non-black partner doesn’t feel threatened. I’ve listened to black people but down the moral and social value of black men and black women to their white SO, and it makes no sense to be with someone you have to belittle your own culture to to make them feel secure. Well enough said I guess (if anyone reads this book).
PS. A lot of black people also need to let go of the whole “social condition of black men and women excuse” and hit a gym or learn to be more social and pleasant. All people, of all ethnicities tend to prefer healthy fun-loving people to get to know, so don’t blame it on black men or black women dating outside of the “race” if you can’t get a date, sometimes its just your flaws and the type of men/women (or both) that you are attracted too.
As a black man that has dated women from different races and backgrounds, I can keep it simple.
The reasons so many brothas date outside their race are
1.) the ridiculous “black adonis” standards black women have
2.) the unapproachable attitudes sistas have
and 3.) -the big unsaid one- MOST SISTAS NOWDAYS ARE LESBIANS!!!!
I’m engaged… to a black woman… and I got one of the last 23 HETEROSEXUAL black women in Detroit. Hell yeah I’m gonna marry her.
I am a 25 year old white woman whom is divorced from a puerto rican man and now date only black/spanish men. I grew up in a very racist home with very strict rules. Being rebellious in my teen years may have contributed to my preference in men. But I just see black/spanish men to be more appealing to me in a matter of physical attraction and swagger.
Of course, as does the disgusted white woman whom wrote this blog, I get the same nasty looks and remarks. But I don’t even acknowledge it and feed into its existance. I don’t know what to tell you, besides just to grow some thick skin, because if you are going to marry this man and spend the rest of your life with him…..GET USED TO IT. Its been hundreds of years and still we have some people whom do not accept interracial relations.
And as for the comments of white women being ‘easy’ ‘dependent’ and ‘docile’……they are steriotypical just as are the assumptions of all black men being more endowed. lol I have a bachelors in meteorology from the united states air force, and am working on my RN. I work now as a medical technician and a model and I find many black men attracted to me for not only my looks but my mind as well. I am far from being ‘easy’ and am a very strong and INDEPENDENT single mother. So I just say forget what others think and make yourself happy….don’t listen to the remarks. Life is too short to let others make you unhappy.
Thank you for your precious time.
I hate to busrt any bubble here, but this is for the most part insane. The last post about dating ONLY Black is simply nuts..I am a very successful black man and have dated black, white and others. People are people, but when any white woman tells me she ONLY dates black men I RUN..She is in need of therapy. Read the last post she dates blacks because her parents were racists. She likes the swagger? She needs a therapists not another Black man.
For the record white women are the easiest and most naive creatures on the planet. Every white woman I know who only dates blacks has some real issues with her fatehr, family , self image or the like.
Only black is a symptom of a broken white woman.
Comment removed by Admin due to language. Please keep it clean and respectful.
Hello, I am a 22 year old black women, who is very successful in her career. Yes, I have all if not more of the same characteristics that a white women can offer a man PERIOD. But definetely a black man. So just for the white lady who made her comment first, please know, and never forget that I will never envy any part of a white women, cause I do not have to get a lip plump, I already have full beautiful lips, I do not have to go get butt implants, cause guess what I was blessed with a very very nice round one, and last but not least, I surely do not have to get a tan, cause, my color is like caramel. So with that being said, my black men are just somewhat confused right now, and I can understand where they are coming from. For them dating white women is a big slap in the face to white men, cause in slavery time a black man could so much as look at a white women, and it would be over. But answer me this white women, back in the slavery days why did the white men want to sleep with the black women, and rap the black women? If they wanted sex they had white wives. Right? Good night. Black men I still love you. And yes there are smart black women out there.
Hello, I am a 29 year old married mother of one and this has been a burning question for quite sometime about black men dating white women. Now, I would be alright with this if black men could give me a vaild reason for the relationships other than: White girls are easy, they not ghetto or they just will do anything sexually. So I asked a man who is from Trinidad who was married to a white women and now lives with another one. He says he likes all races but it just works out that he keeps ending up with white women. I don’t buy that for one minute that’s what he feels comfortable with because he is afraid to try anything else. To all the White women black women don’t envy you but we just want to know why these black men worship you all like gods when their mothers are black? I love all black men even the ones in prison and I understand the struggle. Brother there are some great black women out there!
Comment removed by Admin due to language. Please keep it clean and respectful.
I think black men date white women because they’re stupid, they’re submissive and they dont control anyting, white women let their man do whatever he wants, he can have 2 or 3 women come and go as he pleases and drive the white womens car to see his other women, black women demand respect we want a man who’s going to work and put us first, he cant come in all times of day and call when he feels like it. therefore look at it this way white women only get the black men who dont want nothing in life and have babies all over the place, WEAK BLACK MEN DATE WHITE WOMEN because they aren’t forced to do anything when they get tired and straighten their life out then they come back to their BLACK WOMEN
I just want to say I am a graduate student who is a white woman, and I am NOT DOCILE and do NOT do what my boyfriend of 4 years tells me, and he knows it. He often jokes I am demanding like that of a red-headed step child (I’m Irish and in case anyone is unaware…Irish girls are KNOWN for being temperamental). I am assertive, to the point, and I pay my half of the bills…my HALF…because if anyone pays all of them its HIM not me…and no I don’t ask him to do this..sometimes he insists on it and does it to surprise me! The one thing he does say is I always insist on getting my own things (unless we’re on a date) when it comes to MY bills etc and I know what I want and get it MYSELF–I don’t pay ANYTHING for him…I DON’T take orders from him and he says, that’s what he loves about me. His mother, YES his MOTHER, tells him to try to take care of me, cause she sees the way I am so independent and loves that about me…we have to remember that yes, there are people who act in a general sort of way, but race does not determine everyone’s personality…and I am happy to be different than what some people think is the norm.
I am so sick of some people assuming that just because I am with a black man, he must think all black girls are too loud and ugly or I’m just a pushover with “good” hair (people say this about my hair to me, I DON’T say this). How about, my boyfriend grew up in the suburbs in a mostly white area, that’s what he saw first as a child, and that’s the physical attributes he is most attracted to? He is not looking for someone who is loud, that is true, but that is not excluded only to black girls, white girls can be loud and obnoxious too, just as white girls can know what they want in life–in fact, one of the only things he said his mother specified not to bring home was any “loud voiced girl.” To ALL ladies, we can demand what we deserve out of life calmly without yelling about it, and I am proud to say that I, respectfully, hold my own and my ground with my man.
My two cents on this issue is this.. Stop making complaints about not finding the man you want. Make a list on what you want in a man. Get happy wiht yourself first. Then put yourself in positions to find that good man your looking for. For the record, I do have more of a drawn preferance to white females. I simply seem to be able to communicate with them better in the dating world. So there call me RUCKUS all you want.
That being said, ask yourself why am I single? what can I do to attract the man I want?. Does he have to be black?. I mean I understand being attracted to a person for the external qualities they possess, but how about opening your options . How about getting out of your circle of comfort and go explore what else the wold offers. Nothing wrong with knowing ones culture and awhere they come from. But its also good to know where your going and to expand youself.
Learn whats going on in the world and meet other folks . Im not saying for dating but just enhance your dating circle. Most of the AA women I know are always with each other as friends and thats all. Im not saying having black love and bonding isnt important. It is, but goodness learn what else is out there.
And as far as lack of avaliable men please. 95% of black men marry black women. So your concerned over 5% of guys who dont wan tto be with you? Most of my friends will marry black women in my college eucated circle. I think this complaining is just pure envy for those who have no man. I say fix yourself first and stop hating on folks who are happy.
Finally, white women are also loud, independent and agressive as well. The they are weak myth is a myth. I can tell you stories of the women I know.
wow!!!!!!
both views i have read seem to be so hatefull. i never dreamed that a southern girl, i would ever date much less marry a black man. however, i met a wonderful man (yes, he is a black man) at my intial job out of college. we talked and got to knw eachother but never went out. after one year i took another job and at my going away party he asked if i would go out with him (something we could not have done if we were co-workers. i let him know i would like that very much.
anyway, to make along story short, that was 22 years ago and we have been married for the past 20 years. 20 years of total love and sharing. we have 2 wonderful children and a great life together.
has it been easy, not at all, but we love eachother and that is all that matters. he is a wonderful friend, lover and provider for me and our children. most of our married friends, white/white, black/black are now divorced. it is so sad.
i tell my 2 sons that dating is fun and should be. relationships are work and commentment and marriage is forever. whatever they do i just want them to always do the right thing when dealing with others. i think we, my husband and i, that they seem to understand that, even as teens.
thanx for the time here.
chell in virgina 2
I am a black woman, and I have an attraction to black men, white men, latino men, all races of men. I feel that a lot of times black men (and sometimes black women and anybody else) has the tendency to point out the flaws of their own race as the reason why they date outside of their race. I feel like if you date someone outside of your race it should be because you are interested in that person for things outside of physical appearance.
hmm, as a 20 year old black male i have no true preference in terms of the women i am interested in one thing that i will state is because i come from a jamaican family with alot of female cousins who are models or just beautiful in general my expectations/standard of black women is probably much higher than for white women because of that, i am also alot more well rounded then say just an american because i’ve lived in Jamaica,Canada, and America it gives me a little more insight into what i see. Women are Women regardless of their race and the only thing that really differs is their societal attitudes, i have gotten quite a few “if he isn’t giving me this he aint Shi*” from black women in the states, but i’ve also met some really delicate black women who just oozed a positive vibe. In the end all bets are off on interracial dating, a persons personality is based on who they are around when they are growing up, so as my father said to me “theirs plenty of other fish in the sea, that’s why you go deep sea diving”
Comment removed by Admin due to language. Please keep it clean and respectful.
Across the board, every person is an individual regardless of gender, & ethnicity. People have preferences regarding who that date based upon prior life experiences. It is very petty to assume race determines how refined a person is, or that black women are automatically ghetto. Honestly, dating & finding love is hard enough. Don’t send negativity towards a couple because their genetic backgrounds are polar opposites; for all you know they were both raised in identical environments & completely understand each other as equals. Real Talk.
I am a black women. I never had a problem getting a black man that I wanted. When I would see black men with white women, it would usually be a joke to me. Most of them would have fat slobs, something that looked like they pulled it out of the trash! Seemed like if your going to date outside your race at least get something that looks worth something. Black men get the kind of white women, white men dont even want. I just laugh and laugh. That’s them. To all the sister’s it’s plenty of brother’s out here. Good one’s. To all the white women don’t let those black men that you have, have you thinking that you so much better then us because the real truth is YOUR NOT AND NEVER WILL BE!
We’re all black….know your history! The civilization of man began in Africa or have you forgotten?
Love the site…
Black men are beautiful!!! I have 4 brothers, 3 dating white women, simple they call it. Simple, as ‘life for them’ is difficult. The struggles and expections of life with the black women leave them weak and out of control, particularly when black woman have high expectation of them.
Black women have not failed the black man, society has. My bros wants’ a status life, without the hassle of marriage, a bag of weed and their mother’s dinner before they go home to their white woman – simple. Of course this is not the case with all black men who date outside the race. As we know, many have lots their taste for good food, deep love and soft skin.
I also dated white men, I tried, and thought I was contented until I realised something was missing. An understanding … was missing. I don’t think I need to explain this ‘understanding’. It simply comes with knowing what happened, why it happen, who you are, where you’re going.
I am a professional, both at work and home. My family comes first, my mother and father is black, my children are black, my grandchildren are black. We know where we came from, and where we are going. My bro’s walk off the path, and experience tell me they will find the path again.
It just fashionable…. a need to be filled with the assurance that they can be a man, can be satisfied in a way they want to be satisfied.
Black women leave them be, they have needs that we will never understand, or can to satisfied. When they come back, ‘they will understand.’
I’m Sonia husband,
I never dated a white women, there was no need to step out. If it wasn’t my wife it would be Jill Scott, Beauty at it’s best. Talented!
Educated, temptation, relaxation, as Jill Scott say with my Black woman you have conversation. I was born in South Africian, I watched as an uncle was killed because he asked a white police man why he had kicked his dog. My family suffered under aparthied, the effects are still there.
I don’t hate white people, but I remember. At work there is still equality issues, with white colleagues. I don’t need a reminded when I home. My black woman my history, my life, my blood and my own.
Black men can be insensitive, and selfish. What determine their needs?
1. Money
2. To be looked after
3. To come and go as they please
4. Satisfaction (media with half naked white women pushed into our faces makes it very difficult, the white women is sold to us) Come on…. it’s sexual, a raw need – sold as beauty).
But when I go home, my beauty is there.
Life is NICE!!!!!
Seriously… “Black Royalty” you are laughable when did you grow up when “sisters” weren’t giving it away are you living in a frigging box. That is why all the black women out there have 6 kids by 6 baby daddies. Second READ YOUR HISTORY. I have dated many Egyptian men and it’s really laughable blacks have no history of your own so you have to steal other people’s morons. YOU are the ones still in the 21st century who are living in caves and dancing around fires. The Egyptians are Semitic peoples they are ARABS NOT BLACKS but of course you have to pick any history that is better because you have none of your own worth talking about. Do you know the Egyptians think you beneath them? They have you as workers and slaves and the darker your skin in Egypt the lower class and less desirable you are? Did you know that fool. Yep it’s true blacks are their servants and many Egyptians have even told me wellll we accept blacks can rule and have positions in gov’t but if one of our family ever married a dark skinned person they would be disowned his own brother even married a darker skinned Egyptian woman and he was ridiculed by his family for his choice. So check YOUR facts jacka**
oh and also it’s not OUR fault that your OWN people sold you as slaves to the whites. Nice, real nice.
EriSalem
oh and also it’s not OUR fault that your OWN people sold you as slaves to the whites. Nice, real nice.
Posted on 14-Feb-09 at 11:38 pm
This would be the natural response from one lacking
shame and humility for the crime their ancestor against
black people.
Clearly, the American education system have failed in
it’s teachings. White people will naturally feel adversed
to black people, they have corrupted regilious texts, removing all evidence of black people from the bible, and creation in their early century paintings and documents. In doing so they have doctrine their ancestors to believe they are they justified in their actions against black people. Yes Blacks africans did their brothers wrong. But the injustices was committed by the white mans hands. No where is it written that the africans, hanged, castrated, burned,
cut babies out of black women, raped black women and their son’s, removed the history and culture of their black brothers. Historical documents and photos of whites committing these crimes against blacks are there for all to see and remember.
Black people have no guilt, we are free in mind and spirit to remember those whom died at the hand of evil, to worship God, knowing we are created in his image, and the first human creation. Should this be questioned, ask yourselves how was Jesus hidden in Eygpt, how was Joseph brothers not able to identify him amongst the Egyptians. If the Egyptians was truely fair, why did the germans find it necessary to remove the black noses and features from the the statues. Further, Moses, look at the details of his hands turning white like leprosy and his hair like wool.
When black people read, study the history of the white man he will see how we have been decieved those out history a
If we read, and study we will not be decieved by satan and his helpers. THE DOORS OPENED BY MARTIN LUTHER KING HAVE BEEN CLOSED BY OUR SONS.
Woman,
I understand how you might feel. Black people have been at odds with themselves and other people for centuries. I have the upmost respect for black women and even latin women but, when it comes to dating some women and men can be ruthless, ” Its all Karma and what goes around comes around”. So many women are raising children without fathers, ” Who’s to blame”. Now we have a Black President and most of the black men in America cant seem to comprehend how important that is to the next generation, This country might not ever elect another black president again, So this moment in history is important to everyone civil rights. Most black men continously fight and try to control another women who might be in the hands of another black man “Karma and Judgement” precedes their choices. When black men try to lure a white woman away from another black man, you must first ask yourself what is the man’s motive is it for Good or Evil and will your seed grow healthy or unhealthy. Black Women have had self esteem problems becuase they want to be first in a black man life and have been secondary, but they and many other impatient women are affecting that black man’s right to choose and is taking his civil rights away. Most black men sometime end up getting involved with, a white woman who was good at the beginning that developed bad habits along the way or can never forget the past, ” This is the see I told you so syndrome to interracial relationships”, that exposes a man to another way of thinking and sometimes takes him down the road to choosing someone else,and not hold on to his dreams, wants and desires, this can be brought on by pressures from family, friends or, or people who have dead lives. ” The reality, is its not true and never is true”. Karma. If a man told a woman that she could not have a child or seek to have control over her life, finances etc. That woman would be furious and feel there civil rights were being violated and taken away a woman’s right to choose. No one in this life knows who they will love or be spiritually connected with its about chances, it comes by chance, but everyone in this life know what they want and what they do not want. The world does not understand that, and never will, thats why many empires have been destroyed and relationships that could have worked didnot work because the, man and woman didnot have the strength to believe in themselves as one. Not one ruling the other, but equal treatment to what the other wants and desires to have in their lives. The one thing to remember if you are a beautiful white woman that receives alot of attention while your with your significant other. If you both agree, dont let anyone snake that from you or get confused over minor issues and if you both have the power to believe in each other no one else should interfere with your body that includes family and friends. Because everyone on this earth has the right to choose until death takes us all. And we all answer to what we choose on this earth as a sacrifice to life.
are people narrow minded when they say everyone is created equal? this brother is talking about black egyptain queens and shit. if we are so equal how come asian people have the higest iq how come blacks win the gold medals in sprinting how come whites always win the worlds strogest man competions ? these diffrences go on and on and on anyone who says every1 is crested equal needs to get there facts straigt
Why is it that every time I come on this site and read these comment’s some stupid, dumb “curesed” person has something stupid to say?! It never fail’s! White people obviously do not know their history! They are considered lost and confused people in my book. I don’t even understand why and how they became on top, Why did other race’s of people let them take over? I wish everyone that came saw them didn’t help them or have anything to do with them! That way they would have died off and noone would have had to deal with all the problems we have to go through now. They weren’t of any use to anyone when they started coming to other places. They had to learn and steal knowledge from other people. After they were done using people they found way’s to murder them and destroy them. People just were to kind hearted, I guess. They really should have never been messed up with them. And I feel It’s black people’s fault what happened to them! If they weren’t so agaisn’t each other none of the bad thing’s that happened by the hands of whites would have never happened! Noone should feel sorry for that but your selves your history didn’t have to go that way! Ya’ll came from african’s for heaven’s sake. Your ancestor’s were strong intelligent people. To this day yall still can’t come together! When some of yall come up instead of helping each other better there selves, you would rather keep them down and it just be a few on top. Then the black men and women don’t stay together, why is this? Do yall hate each other or what? And what really puzzles me (this being the last question) If slavery, all the death’s, fight’s seperation from your family, and oppression was so bad, Why didn’t that make ya’ll come together and try to be a stronger race? Ya’ll lack what every other race has ” The abillity to stick together”! Work on it and see how much you can accomplish!
I have a wonderful black man who loves his black woman!!!
Oh please. Not all white women who date outside are fat, trashy or skanky. And I have never had a one night stand or just “gave it up” before. I am beautiful, educated and I have dated outside my race before. Dominicas, Puerto Ricans, Blacks- and it was all garbage. They all either cheated, disapeared, were broke or had mad kids. It was the type of guy that I was attracted to- I grew up and find other qualities attractive now. I am settled now and content. There’s no need to go out and look when I have a good man who loves me. Life is too dam short for all this nonsense. Love is hard enough to find. I’ve gotten the dirty looks and they even tried to fight me before. He wasn’t even black- he was Dominican. And I am cute with a noce body so you know they hated my guts! Spanish girls liked me, but a lot of blacks didn’t. Oh well – nobody pays my bills.
Will you people please shut the fu*k up about hundreds of years ago and slavery. Every race had their share of racism and wars. Jews, Turkey, Greece, Ireland, Poland. Get over it. Chris Rock said it best. Black people need to stop making excuses for themselves. “Oh the white man is holding me down”! Chris Rock is one of the highest paid comedians. Please- and so what if black guys want some variety. I don’t find that many black women that attractive. White woman are classier and are more easy -going. Not all black guys use us and take our $. Latinas are the ones with 9 kids. They give birth every 3 months. They are the horniest race ofall. Mexican, Puerto Rican, Domincans,. They start at 13 and keep going. I’ve lived in neighborhoods full of them and it was crazy! Do any of them not have a dam baby carriage with them? It’s cool, just go on welfare.
I dont care who F**** who as long as your happy and from my experience white girlsare not easy going and i never met a pretty black girl in my life and one more thing its two thousand nine who cares who is wit who
the guy who replied to the disgruntled white women needs a foot up his ass. and i can give it to him in a heart beat. my on girlfreind in my life was a white women and she was not easy, weak, or any of that bull**** this guys talking about. it’a a shame black women are the most insecure women on earth.
Anonymous, you never met me! I’m black and pretty 5’4, 110lbs with peanut butter brown skin. I never had any body fat and white men loves me but I just don’t date them. This isn’t a pick-up line but I want everyone to know that not all black woman are mean or insecure. My soon to be black husband loved white women until he met me! Most white women are jealous of me because I am petite and unique. That’s right small frame, eat a lot, and never age. Yes, I must brag because the I don’t like when brothers put all black women in the same category.
That is the most dumb crap I ever heard! Black women arent attractive?! Now that has got to be a joke! I don’t know what the hell that person came from with that one! If it’s a man you just mad you can’t get with one and if it’s some white girl she”s just jealous! And don’t get mad at that man black royalty if he want’s to give black women their well deserved props! Every one wants to get mad when someone say’s something good about the black women! Long as the praise stays on the white women everything is all good! It’s such ashame! Most of the haters are just jealous! Black women don’t have to prove their selves desirable to anyone, it’s a fact that they are! So for everyone who try’s to put them down needs to really check there selves! And please for all the so called I’m – better -then- black women- women Stop getting lip, hip, butt, and braids! Let’s not try to copy something that you suppose to already be better then, and for so many years thought was ugly!
And by the way, they only thought it was ugly because they didn’t have it…… naturally!
The TRUTH is that black women date WHITE men as well. LOL
It’s just not advertised as much. Nobody’s crying. Black women date outside their race too. BLAH BLAH BLAH…lets not let the black man take all the crdit for dating outside their race…Times have changes yaaaay…not more slavery….
I don’t know where most of these people are from, I’ve been asked out by alot of black men ( before I was married) and they never said anything about a white women or any other race other then black. It’s alot of black men out here that love their women. And to be real with everyone black women are their women. Without black women there is no black man. The two need one another in more ways then a little bit. So stop trying to put the sista’s down! And it’s a shame that some of these so called black men ( if they are black, and not some racist bastard trying to perpertrate!) saying such low down things about their women. When you came from a black women. If your father thought of a sista the way you do you wouldnt even be here. And these white women really need to stop! you should kiss the black womens behind for giving you another black **** to ****!
hi you guys! i’m sticking with the topic; why do black men date white women ?it depends on the person and what he is looking for in a woman(period) . some black men choose white women because they listen, not argumentative, easier to get along with, overally there are attractive to them,but their are some black women who are the same as well. thats why i say it depends on the person . for example A black man probably had some bad past experiences with black women and find a white women to be more suitable for him. another example a black man might not look at race just utlimately attractive to a white woman as a person.. as most say they date white women because their easy. what ever their reason for being with a white woman good are bad that is their choice. i don’t like to see it personally only if its my man but everybody else it dosent matter. i caught my man with a white woman and it wasnt the fact that she was white . it was the fact that she was hot mess and that if he was to cheat on me why it couldn’t be with someone that atleast was worth comparing. so to all my beautiful black sistas dont turn your nose up at interracial couples . remember it’ s a man decesion. and if he dosen’t choose you to be with then he is not worthy of you anyway no matter what color he is. stay strong
Comment removed by Admin due to language. Please keep it clean and respectful.
omg! it is such a shame that ignorance is still alive or shall i say ignorant people. everybody has an opinion .. but lets be clear about one thing when it comes to an ignorant person no one and i mean no one takes you serious … ps to the admin its time to work your wonderful magic on the racist ^^
LIGHTEN UP– WE ARE EVERYWHERE..
my opinion: Done.
The reason why some black men are into white woman is Hollywood! Before Hollywood it was out of curiosity but now since there’s so many promotions for white women like let say most famous actresses are white, most famous top models are white, most porn stars are white & this I know I have been dating a black man for almost 2 yrs. & that’s it! He was hooked heavily on porn & knows all the porn stars by a heartbeat. I am not white or black but I am brown skin w/ mix heritage of black, white, asian & arabic, Im as exotic as it gets but yet my ex crave looking at white nude models & admits masturbating to them. It’s the greatest insult to me, & for all of you who only masturbates or only dates white women you have some problem, you are brainwashed by the silent racism implied in your head. We are all one, someday it’s not gonna be about the master race anymore…
We all need to put a stop to this whole ordeal. I’m a black man thats been with white women before and they treated me just as good as a black woman have. I’m the type of guy that like women of all different races and ethnicities. Just because you and that woman is the same race that does’nt mean that you all are for each other. I love black women hell I’m the product of a black woman. Its a shame that people will accept a gay couple over an interracial couple. Black men if you want to date outside of your race go right ahead and do it, we don’t owe the black woman anything, they don’t own us. Its your life and your god given right to be with who ever you want to be with. Black women say they are abandoned by black men when we date outside of our race, but we feel abandoned by black women when we get passed over for the convicted felons and thugs. People think white women are easy thats just a stereotype. Black women get dogged and used by their man everyday and most of them keep taking the guy back even when he made a baby with another woman (watch Maury). Black women claim to be these superwomen but they are some of the biggest push overs too.
I JUST DONT GET IT THIS BLACK MAN TODAY ARE SO WEAK MINDED ABOUT DATING WHITE WOMAN. THERE ARE HERE FOR ONE REASON TO DESTROY THE BLACK RACE. I AM TELL YOU WHY.BECAUSE THERE ARE JEALOUS OF OUR RACE.BECAUSE THEY TAN THEMSELVES AND ACTING BLACK.BLACK MEN WAKE UP BEFORE IT TOO LATE.
I am true black royalty and think universally.
I hear these brothers on here talking about white woman being easy sexually and easy to run over. You can find a lot of women like that from all races. Then there was a brother talking about his upstanding college education and how he likes his strong black women. Your upstanding education is of a white curriculum and your strong black woman perms her hair to be straight like a white woman and there is no limits to being a strong black man I am of all cultures and religions therefore I date and love who I see fit. I received my education from life and living around the world and seeing what this world has to offer. While you want to be, black guys run around in your suites and cars like the white man preaching blackness, I am a warrior for peace and justice and I don’t take any ignorant bullshit from anybody whether your gray or green. The devil comes in all shades and God works in mysterious ways.
As a brown man, cause I’m not black or African nor Afro American. I’m an American from Dark skinned Israelite descendants who was brought here as slaves who mixed with Native Americans and Pennsylvanian Dutch. The white that is in my blood came from the white dutch who were assisting on the underground railroad. As a brown man or what most understand as African American I was born in Germany and raised in Germany, Italy, and Korea. At 18 I move to D.C. metro area were I reside.
My beliefs come from the teachings of Islam, Buddha, Hindu, Judaism, Christianity, Catholicism and my Sensei taught me the art of Kenpo. I have learned in my travels and studies that there are many paths to the same destination.
I take the path that best suites me. There is no reason to bring material success into these type of conversations because only your mind and spirit truly feel its power.
I know people who live in a shack who are happily married then I know a lot of people who are what you call successful who aren’t happy.
Black men White women such a trivial subject when your dealing with science, history, God, and nature on a global scale. Interracial love and dating has been happening for a long time before the slaves of America even within ancient civilizations. To grasp these free universal concepts one must stop eating swine and processed foods to allow the mind and spirit out of shackles and learn to respect your fellow man, woman, child, and all other forms of life. Church and college by far does not hold all the answers so, you are the only one who can find the truth. You find it through experiences, life, friends, family and your environment.
I’m not trying to preach I’m just saying if you don’t free and expand your mind first you have No Business trying tackle deep controversial topics like Black Men and White Women and that topic is just one grain of sand on the beach of life.
Thank You and I wish you all the best of luck in this beautiful messed up world.
Peace
THE ANSWER!
You date whomever is available to you.
im 20…and i just want to say that its pathetic how people blame others of different races for the reasons as to why they cant get a man. im white but look ethnic (been thought of as spanish, italian, etc.). ive dated spanish and black men(haitian)….and i love it becuse its my preference. that doesnt mean im only going to date these men and shut out everyone else. as for the white women being “weak” and “easy” im sure as hell not any of those. i dont put up with anyones BS. In fact when dting my black ex….he was never possesive and in control of me I WAS IN CONTROL…he was respectful of me. if a black man ever tells you that he only dates white woman cuz they are submissive….then they are just covering there own asses cuz they dont wanna be looked down upon or judged by others…thy just making excuses so thy are not ridiculed or criticized. they are scared to admit the truth that they really love and appreciate white behind lol. black woman can be easy going and submissive too….just look at joe and katherine Jackson…..just watch the movie nd see how timid of a woman she was. my best friend who is black isnt loudmouthed or bitchy with an attitude…she is the sweetest girl ever. if you dont like people being racist or making racist remarks about your ethnicity….then you definetly have no place perpetuating that with similar words etc about them….it just makes you look just as bad and ignorant as them. EVERYONE JUST GET THE HELL ALONG ALREADY AND STOP BLAMING SOMEONES SKIN COLOR FOR YOUR DAMN PERSONAL PROBLEMS…..oh…and mixed babies are the beautifulest thing in the world.
oh…..and another thing….no women…especially a white woman….”stole” any black man away or are trying to purposely make it harder for a black woman to find a man….nobody put a gun to their head and forced them. if they dont wanna be with a certain woman, then they are not gonna be with that woman…thats their personal choice….they are not being coerced into an interracial relationship….either its their own preference or the fact that they dont like you personally….not because they are being brainwashed!!!!!! get over your hatred and ignorance people…learn to open your minds and hearts an try to become educated please so the world can relieve some of the mess that it is in.
oh….and Nikki on question number 28…..ur a jealous, rac*** ****….what happened….did your man leave you for a white chick?? is that why your taking your anger out on white females???? cuz you need to place the blame on somebody else rather than yourself????
I have read the view of the white woman that married a black male and I have read the view of the black male that married a black female and his views on why a black male would be interested in a while female and I feel sorry for both of you.
This is my opinion:
I was born in MASS and I have never viewed people as BLACK or WHITE because we are all shades of brown because if you put something white against the whitest of people you will see they don’t match and if you put a black paper against a so called black person you will see their skin is brown not black….
I think darker skin looks healthier so I do enjoy the summer days when I can get darker but I was born light brown of Portugese decent. Does that make me white in your opinion or black? I was born with a pronounced arse just like a woman of darker color but my lips are not full and I do not entend to have them bigger but does that make me black or white? Are you considered black because your ancestors are from Africa or is anyone of the darker persuation considered black? You see I just don’t understand why we need to separate ourselves into catagories?
I am not highly educated but still going to college to get my BA since I have to work hard at everything I desire but I am proud that I have the ablility to get as far as my inteligence and drive will allow. Always worked hard for what I needed and wanted.
I grew up poor; one of ten children and our mother raised us on her own without prejudice. People are all children of GOD and no matter how old we get we are still children to our heavenly father so we all still have a lot to learn about what GOD wants which is so simple really GOD IS LOVE so why can’t we just learn to get along and love one another and stop hating our differences? Differences are great otherwise we would be so boring.
I think people should marry someone because they love them as a person not because they can manipulate them or not! I wish the world could go blind for a day just to see that what matters most is what is on the inside that counts most. Also lumping everyone into one catagory is just wrong! I have light skin but that didn’t make me weak, needy or easy. I was going to be a virgin bride until I was raped by a young man but I don’t hold all men responsible for ruining my dream of being a virgin bride….my father called me what trash so I wanted to prove I was not white trash as my father kept calling me because for some reason he hated me from birth and abused me every chance he got so that is why my mother left him. I was number nine and she was pregnant with number ten. She packed us all up and left that is strength….brought us to church, kept a house over our head and did her best to keep food in our bellies. No that isn’t the sign of a weak woman….or an easy woman. On the contrary she was the strongest woman I ever knew and worked until she wa 82 years old because she enjoyed work.
No we don’t have slavery in our family history but we had our own type of abuse from men….so should I say all men are pigs because of what happened…..NO because it is the individual not the race, sex, religion or nationality of the person that caused them to be that way. It was that person and that person only that was the cause and responsible for the pain and suffering that was being done. Not all so called white people believed in slavery or would treat a person like that but for some reason all light skinned people are lumped together for what happened in the past….not fair really and we can’t make up for what those evil people did…I don’t like to see anyone in pain or suffer but I shouldn’t be blamed for what happened then. All I can do is try to stop the hate that occurs around me. That means all types of abuse and evil.
Truly sorry for all the pain and suffering that went on in the history of this world and I wish and pray that the people abusing others will see the light and stop but all I can do as I said is stop it when I am near enough to see it! I would give my life for anyone that is being abused around me…..but some times the one being abused needs to fight as well. I seen my mother being beaten by a man that said they loved her….I will never allow anyone to abuse me that way! No pale skin doesn’t mean weak….I am strong….intelligent and loving as well as a God fearing woman not easy either but then a man is stronger and has proven he can take what he wants even when a woman fights and says NO!
My point is people have to walk a mile in someone’s shoe to understand where they are coming from and don’t judge a book by the cover…if you get to know the person you might find you have a lot more in common then you could see just by first glance.
Thank you for listening to my point of view…God bless!
this man is full of s***
blak people need to shut the f*** up about slavery none of them alive have been slaves. that s*** has been over for 200 years. Now everyone has the same opportunities as any american white black latino asian.
I am a 23 year old black educated female, recently graduated from Purdue Calumet University with 6 degrees. I have been very distroguht over why black men date white women and Black Royalty you have opened my eyes tremendously and I thank you for this. I have a question for you: I currenty have a black guy that I really like, he gets along with my mom and family, we have the same beliefs, we have great conversation but when I asked him if we could date he said he wants to just stay friends, why?
Both the above post are very extreme…..but both did touch on the truth…as a white woman married to a black man….I didn’t go out looking for a black man….I just happened to fall in love with my best friend. And not only black women are raised in church and to be virtuous….white women, including myself were raised that way too. Just get over it and find someone to love, no matter what color they are….
For DeeNoel….because after 6 degrees, you still can’t spell distraught? Get with Black Royalty and open a book….not just your eyes:)
I’m married to a kind, wonderful and “not so loud” black woman. Yes, she had some baggage and needy issues in the family but my love for her was so strong that I never felt intimidated by such. In fact, I never even looked at her level of education as matter of serious concern. I had a PhD (in engineering) and she was a school teacher with some diploma. I had dated white girls before in college but the moment I saw this black woman and dated her a couple of times, I knew for sure that I had found gold! She’s soft spoken, kind, generous and sexy. We got married after 14 months of our first date. We have been married 21 years now. We have four lovely children and two of them are in engineering colleges. What I’m trying to say is that I had dated white girls before but I was not being driven by a morbid fear of “excessive needs in black women”, “ghetto attitudes” or “irreversible strong will in black women” or such like. I was open-minded and I eventually found a woman of my dreams.
Here is my 2 cents opinion on those famous people who married white women like Quincy Jones, Wesley Snipes, Earl Jones, Sidney Poitier etc. You have to understand the era in which they were born and how they sought to display their “achievements” or “acceptance” in their public careers. The image of white beauty was all around us in every media and the intrinsic effect of this on choices must not be discounted. Recently, black beauty has come to the fore in fashions and media; my guess is that we have two” competing forces” regarding objects of ethnic beauty and debates like this current one will go on and on forever…and love is blind to all of it!!!
I think the real reason why black man date white women is because of all the bullsh*t youh see on tv. They see all these blondes with the glossy Pantene hair and the pink makeup and sh*t.it’s society. And they can make up all this bs about how black women are this and that but they love us..aha..i mean they LOVE us.
Who always holds them down after work with a home cooked meal and works their butt off to make them comfortable. Black men only view white and mexican women as sex objects…who wouldnt?All they do is display themselves as w****s and s***s(ex:Jenna Jameson, Pamela Anderson, Madonna,Playboy H*es,etc.).They sleep with them, but they never truly respect them.Only a handful of black men truly “love” them, but the rest of them use them as pleasures until they are ready to settle down and be in a committed relationship, which then they will find a nice-looking, and highly respectable BLACK woman.
Anotha example, who always stays down with them after they go to jail and sh*t? Look at Diary of A Mad Black Woman.nuff said.
YOU IDIOTS! ALL OF YOU! EVERY ONE OF YOU! How petty! griping about interracial relationships when it is the NATURAL progression of eliminating racism. How to eliminate racism???? ELIMINATE RACE! Each generation of interracial relationships moves us one step closer to black women who look like white women, white women who look like black women….the lines are blurring and ultimately will be erased.
And another thing….all this *** about my African heritage, my European ancester…can you name one friggin’ direct relative from those countries from 200 years ago? One name? NO. We are all just mutts and mongrels, we have lost the traits that people then used to distinguish black from white. There are black women who are timid and straight haired and blue-eyed. There are white women who are dark skinned, big lips, and independently loud. We no longer ‘fit’ in our neat little boxes. We are free to be who we want to be, date white or black, and no longer live by society’s stigmatisms. I love our country. I love our president. And I love the freedom to choose. In response to the article and the reply to article….join the real world, you are both stupid, racial pigs.
I pity people like these. Disgusted White Girl and her boyfriend are apparently very pathetic individuals with lots of insecurities. And Black Royalty is the proof that graduating from “one of the most prestigious universities” doesn’t guarantee that the person won’t still be stupid and clueless. Hey, Royalty, you can kiss my “easy & docile” white ass
Actually I want to share MY story. I’m a 26 y o white woman, actually I’m Russian but living in NYC for already 5 years and 3 of those I spent with the love of my life, yes, a black man. Knowing our backgrounds (I grew up in a small town in Siberia and started to learn English only at the age of 15 and he is 8 years older, black male born in Bronx) nobody would think that we fit together. However, I’ve never clicked faster with a man before, we moved in together after only knowing each other for 3 months because it just felt right and we finally tied the knot only 3 months ago also because it just felt right. Not only we have similar tastes, we have similar outlook on life, world, relationship. And no, he’s not my first interacial relationship (why race should even matter???) To break another stereotype, I have a Masters Degree and he dropped out of college which doesn’t make him any LESS smarter or successful in life.
I’m so tired of black/white thing. Why doesn it matter? It should matter why a particular individual fell in love with a particular individual. Because they find each other interesting, atractive, they make each other happy? Shouldn’t that matter?
I’m just lucky that we are blessed with great families and friends that don’t care what races and backgrounds we come from as long as we make each other happy and we make it work. And you know when we are ready to have kids, I’m gonna teach them what is really important in life.
why is every one shocked? A white woman who whould have sex with a black c*** has no class, no taste, no self repect. In fact she is a past hope. Do you think they enjoy the smell? They don’t have a sense of smell.
I think black men date white women because it was once forbidden, they feel like they have a trophy wife. Anything that is forbidden is wanted,like adam and eve in the garden ,all those trees they had access to, (thousands) and God only said “dont eat from 1 tree” and thats thre tree desired the most. the way life is going now after a while everyone on the earth will be black becauseof all the interacial dating. the white race will be extinct. Look around its already happening, which is a good thing
to erisalem you are so wrong , blacks were here first. people of color are one. all people of color are from one generation the Hamites, you read your history ,read about the great Hannible! decendants from Noah, his three sons were ham, shem and Japhed, and yes Ham was black, shem was asian and japhed was white, the blacks ruled first, then shem and now Japhed is ruling. go to eygpt and look in the pyramids all people of COLOR, we are all one generation.
WHITE WOMEN CANT COMPARE TO A SISTA,AND PPL SHOULD JUST REALIZE THAT WE ARE SPECIAL.
Mr. Black Royalty,
In regard to your response to Jamie in VA.
Let’s face it, there are some truly beautiful dark brown women but so very,very,very few of them. While there are many, beautiful fair women. It’s just the race qualities. Speaking for a large percentage of us fair women: We like the natural variation of our eye and hair color. What vairation do dark brown women have? Brown, brown, brown! How very boring. We like our bottoms the way they are, they’re in proportion to the rest of our bodies. We like the texture of our hair, it’s beautiful. We like our lips they way they are, again they’re in proportion to our face. And lastly, we love our fair skin. I think you had it backwards sir when you were writing Jamie, dark brown women want desperately to look like us and quite frankly some of them look ridiculous in the effort to do so.
Let’s take Michael Jackson, are you going to tell me that Lisa Marie Presley or the other fair, famous beauties that he dated or married were easy women? He preferred fair women, let’s face it. And by the way, why did he staighten his hair, have his nose narrowed, change his skin color? He desperately wanted to look like a fair skinned person, feature wise and everything. He ruined his appearence trying to do so, he was a pretty decent looking dark brown man. Someone should have told him long ago, you cannot be what you are not.
How dare you sir, insult us fair skinned women by saying we are “easy” we have some that are but don’t catagorize all of us as that. Like your race doesn’t have “easy” women? They’re all Mother Theresa? Get a reality check on life!
Also, regarding heritage/history, most dark brown men were with tribes that wore paint on their faces and animal bones through their nose and little skirts on no skirts and some ate people for dinner. You want to talk about our cavemen? Then you should read up on your history.
If your wondering why I don’t say black and white, just hold a Crayola crayon up to your skin to see what your true color is. Also just for the record, the fair women that lay on beach or go to a tanning salon? I’ve never seen one that turned out to be dark brown … I think that’s such a CRAPPY color, literally speaking that is.
To every black woman on here thats against interracial dating, If you just have to have a black man in your life then why won’t you go approach one? Its time for black women to lose the old mentallity that men should approach a woman first. So when you black women see a black man that you like then walk up to them and start a conversation.
Why advertise a black male with a white girl on tv, even obama said blacks didn’t treat him right cause he was half white. Everyone knows that blacks think they are pimps, thugs, and that welfare are jobs. The blacks are afraid of hard work. I have to laugh when I see their pants around their ankles, and cops love it, they are easy to catch after a crime.
Dear Jamie,
I am a well educated white woman, attractive, and unique. I could always have whoever I wanted when I was younger. I married young to a white man (never thought about dating black back then). I stayed with him for 13 years trying to make it work but he was an alcoholic. In the end I had to leave him because I knew I could do better on my own. Now I am in my 40′s. Dating isn’t as easy as it used to be. We all have baggage in our mid-life. Anyone who has ever lived, does. But anyway, I was pursued hard by a black man and I did not give in for months but finally decided to see him. I think because I was going through a mid-life crisis, that was the only reason I gave in. Anyway, I did fall in love with him but he has done nothing but hurt me throughout our entire relationship even though I know he loves me. I think black men in general have too many issues going on, e.g. a chip on their shoulder, jealously, trust issues, always gripping about race issues, etc… It is a damn shame. I really love my man but I seriously doubt it will ever work even though he wants to get married. When I am around his friends they are cool to me but they always make remarks about white people. I think that is totally disrespectful. Black men, grow up! You are not the hottest thing around, trust me. And, Mr. Jamie, you are not royalty–LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DREAM ON
People calm down. We need to get over this bridge. God created all over us. We all came from the root of Adam and Eve. Why do we allow our eyes to dictate what couple we will like to see. Who cares whom a black man dates or whom a black woman dates. I am a single black male from California originally from Ghana West Africa. I dont have problem with whom i date. I will love whom i want to love. I could be racist or not, its my business. Thank God i have a free mind. The song goes like this” When a man loves a woman” The song didnt say when a black, white, mexican loves a woman. Please why can’t we accept people when they are in love. I have heard the notion that there are not many good black men left so is not right for the white women to take the few good black men. Now lets get this right. Everything now comes back to education. Most black men dont want to educate themselves so the ones who educate themselves are been taken by other women such as white women and spanish women. Now this is what i will say, black women we know the history in this country. You ladies can do better. Stop hanging out with that ghetto black man who doesnt want to have a life. Right or wrong i dont want to be with someone who doesnt want to educate themselves. I am not trying to judge anyone but education is the key to everthing. I am C student in college so i dont want to hang out with a D student because i want to do better. The same thing applies in love. Please dont associates yourself with loosers. Upgrade yourself and any man or woman that comes to talk to will check him or herself. Dont settle for less. Let love reigns, love is a beautiful. God gave us love let us show it. God bless
good lord you are ALL so racsist!
for too long black woman have complained there are no good men out there, their problem is these particual women have only looked to black men to date. WHY??!! Not all, but a lot of black men, especially in the 21st century, don’t limit themselves to black women..So why would you??!! I personally would date/marry a man of any race.
Ok.. I’m SO sick of EVERYONE always making race an issue! I am an Irish/German-American (white) woman who was married to an African man from Mali (black). We had a child together, he is now 3 years old. We are separated and will be getting a divorce when I can afford it. We separated because our standards for relationships were VERY different! This had nothing to do with the fact that he was black and I was white, but more to do with our difference in culture. I guess I got snotty looks and what not when we used to walk around, but I never assumed that it was a race issue, just a normal woman issue. I get snotty looks sometimes when I am by myself as well, so why would I try to differentiate the two? I think people of any ethnicity, who continue to turn every issue into a race issue, is partly responsible for keeping racism alive. Of course there will always be all kinds of prejudice out there, racism only being one of them. It is our choice as an individual to partake in it. I have chosen not to. I have not had any problems with getting along with people of other races because I treat everyone the same, and I judge them on their character not their color. I hope to one day find a GOOD man that I can spend the rest of my life with, but I don’t know what race he will be! Who knows, he could even be another man from Mali, I can’t judge all their men on one man!! My point here is that if we all make the decision today to judge everyone we meet based on their personality and values, racism would not continue to take control of our beautiful nation! One person does make a difference, you might just change someone else’s mind by treating everyone kindly!!
I’m mixed and I have dated both black and white woman, does a black woman consider that dating “outside” my race? I’m more attracted to black women, part of that attraction is the way they look at the world, hey a smile is just a frown turned upsidedown, and they get that. Love to all the beautiful black women, I might only be half black but I’ll never meet a sista only half way!
I am a white woman and I love black men. My ex fiance-I should say ex preiance (we were talking about marriage, not formally engaged) was a mistake that I made and I put up with too, too TOO MUCH from him. I won’t even talk about the things he did, however, I did learn a lesson.
I live in a Midwest college town, and all I see are black men with white women here. And the craziest part about it is that they (the black men here) look for fat, sloppy, greasy looking white women. It seems everywhere I go, I see a black man with a white female that looks like this. On campus, they like the “Barbies”-size 4, tanned, long blonde hair, lives off Daddy’s credit cards through college, joins a sororoity and dates athletes in hopes of marrying money so she doesn’t have to work after graduating college.
I am not saying all black men are like that here, just the ones I have met. I am tired of not being ugly, lazy, fat and stupid like most of the white women here that date black men. I have no problems with black men dating black women, I have no problems with black men dating white women who are nice, sweet, easy to talk to, and intelligent. I do have a problem when a black man approaches me, strikes up a conversation, and then stops talking to me when he finds out who I am:
I am a strong white woman who WILL NOT be walked over, treated like crap or controlled by a black man. For years, the theory that black men like to date us is because we are easy and stupid is true. Supposedly black men date white women because they know we, as white women will take care of them, put up with their bs, and let them do whatever they want while we stand there and take it. I will not feed, clothe, house, give money to or do any of the other things white women do to get and maintain a black man. There is something to be said that people see you at arm’s length. When a black man sees me, he sees my short reddish-blonde hair and dark blue eyes, thinking “I bet I can have my way with her. She prolly like the other white women and would do anything I tell her to. I can dog her and she won’t say or do a thing about it….” What he doesn’t realize immediately is that I am different. He reazlies before we go out on a date that I have standards and expectations (not insanely high or unreachable) and he never calls me again…Probably because he knows he can’t get away with anything because I won’t let him.
I will not put up with that. Example:
I too need to understand why the black- men, see the white woman as (prime). Black woman come on all colors , it’s like going to burger king he can have it his way. Our skin colors are dark, brown, light, white, med brown, our hair type, silkey, hard, shor,t long… we are people of all color… therefore our balck-men have a wideselection. But ! the black man who select the white woman, can not find beauty in himself.. why would out professional black men … chose a white woman when he become successful. Black men keep in mind that same woman, wouldn’t give you one look if you were poor and normal… They still have the same mind set during slave…. to capture the blackman for free labor… black men your still slaves when your with a white woman, supplying all the white woman needs, like the black man did for his master… Black men find you a black woman of your color preference and marry her …… Yes, we are stong headed but keep in mind, this was adopted when we too were slaves our husband was sold off, we had to protect our kids and ourself.. provide, and protect… if the black man that the time to understnad his woman and step back and listen to her. HE’ll see the Glory of loving a Strong Black woman. The reason white woman are submissive black men ,,, keep in mind she;s been tough the white man handle all, therefore she has on voice…. do she support, protect and understand her blackman “NO”.. blackmen your paying for her love …..
america is fallen country full of fallen people. its a wonder God allows us to even exist.
Oten times, I have encounted behavior of black women distrubing in this area. Most black women, I have encountered are not accepting to educated black men. I am an Electrical Engineer which was achieved to support my family in the future. Black women tend to shun me because i speak proper and my conversation is not about drugs, sleeping with someones wife, drinking excessively and along the lines of these conversation. Its like i have become the enemy because I have earned an education and am seeking an honest and mainstream American way of life.
A lot of black women are more comfortable with the thug. I guess because he has only drama, sex and cofusion to lay on the table. When engaging in sensible conversation, many cannot comprehend the meaning of certain words used in intelligent converstion. When trying to clearify the meaning I am told that ” I am not in school” or “you think you are smart”. We as black people must step up to the plate and educate us as well as our children to the math, science and other top academics in this country. White women get an education and also support their mate. They push their male friend or husband to get an education. Black women tell them to get a job. These jobs are low paying and does not keep up with inflation. So after you grow older, then everthing increse in value except you salary. Do the math and that is one reason why educated black men seek out white women. Oh, they tend to want to please and respect their man more than black women. A famous phrase of black women is “No MAN IS MY HEAD” read your BIBLE about that phrase.
Danielle
You are the kind of woman any man need. Without checks and balances we as a people are doomed. I want my mate to be involved in my life and to respect me as well as respect for her self and not jump in bed with others when ever the desire occurs.
Go Danielle
WOW!!!!!!! I am lost for words people have a lot of opinions don’t they and they have a right.
Why would one think we don’t encourage our men to get and education. All black women do not think the same as well as white women not thinking the same. Yes I want my man husband whatever you call him. I want him to get a job, if I had to work while in college he will do the same, and become a success. I have expericence a lot, I have dated whites, blacks and mexicans I will say all treated me with respect except for most of the black men. The Mexicans and whites treated me like a queen, respected my mind,my intellect, my love for poetry, my quest to gain knowledge my love fora diverse category of music while the brothers wanted me to know they were cheating, selling dope smoking and drinking. Don’t get me wrong all black men are not the same, all men don’t want the same thing nor want to live the same way. Yes I belive the man should be the head of the house however that does not exclude me as the head either.
Most black men will not come up to the plate or take their rightful place in the world as a leader. I embrace the differences in all cultures of race we can all learn something for each other male and female.
Bottom line is that the issue of interracial dating will never be solved or settled. The fact is that it means so many different things depending on the observer or participant. I’ve dated many women of many races and the only time I have felt any moral discomfort was when I’ve dated white women. I felt guilty, not for loving the woman or being attracted to her but for wanting her or choosing her over a black woman. Yes, I will admit my initial attractions to white women were to the generalized stereotypes that I’ve heard repeated here and also many times before: white girls are easy, white girls are more docile, white girls are more forgiving, white girls are less headstrong, white girls are less combative. The truth is for the dozen or more that I’ve dated over the years these statements ring true for the most no matter what their background or histories even though they were pretty diverse in upbringings.
What I found and enjoyed was that I had more freedom to be myself in these mixed relationships without feeling that if I goofed up I’d have to beat all of her brothers and cousins and n’ems asses as I would if I were in a relationship with a black woman. With black women there is always a constant heir of pressure because she has to prove to herself, to you and to everyone else, that she didn’t just pick another stereotypical “baby daddy”. She has a constant fear that she will wake up and realize that she is with another sorry ass you-know-what because the sad fact is that too many of us are.
Too many black men blame black women for the relationship issues we face together. Most black women complain about the same thing that most women of any race complain of when there really is a legitimate complaint. What do most of the black women that you know nag black men about? Getting a marketable education, stop rapping or producing if it aint paying bills, getting and keeping a real job or career, providing wants and needs for them and his children, to stop hanging with his boys when she wants his time, stop getting high/drunk, stop listening to his momma/family/friends, putting his momma first, comparing her to his momma, dogging her momma, stop cavorting with Ex’s and strange women, don’t cheat or hang with men that cheat, bring his tail home at a decent hour, stop looking at women when he’s with her, stop the porn addiction, treat her with respect, do stuff that she wants to do from time to time, be romantic, buy her little tokens and other normal female requests.
When it all boils down to it, the truth is that it’s all about ego for both sides. Everyone wants to feel they are worth the other person giving up some nonsense that they think is important or means something. She wants to feel that she is worth him giving these things up and black men don’t want to feel whipped into giving anything up so we find women who will allow and give US these things in return instead. White women in my experiences, are more willing to give up their egos for a black man and allow him to be any version of himself that he wants to be without all of the conflict and name calling than most black women are.
Black men are under so much pressure even still in the American society. Pressure to prove that we can be smarter, wealthier, stronger, more successful and more educated than a white man. This is where the problems come in because a lot of black women want the recognition that his accomplishments are all because of the fact that he is with her. Black women want to be the reason for anything and everything positive that her black man does and they will nag his ass to death or tear him down till he gives up so that they can get that recognition.
What I found was that although I was content dating, partying, living and sleeping with these white women, there was always something missing. My white girlfriends were so happy to have a man that they never pushed me much to do anything out of the fear of pushing me away and being left alone. If I wanted to sit around all day in my boxers, Michelle supported that and would keep me with a fresh supply, if I wanted to buy a car before the rent was paid Linda went out and got a low interest rate loan, when I decided to drop out of college Cathy said move in with me and we’ll sell your homemade t-shirts on eBay, Karen just wanted me to be home on the weekends. These women had no real substantial expectations of me. On one hand this was very liberating.
I finally had the opportunities to explore many aspects of myself without relinquishing any of my self-image. I was still able to come home to hot loving relations every night and Amy even invited some of her girlfriends on a few occasions. For some reason I was not fulfilled in these relationships. When I realized what it was that was missing for me was when I ran into a girl I dated in college, Arlishia. This was the nagging-est black woman that I had ever dated. I saw her sitting at the bar and after having a few tall ones she looked really good she was always physically gorgeous but her attitude made her unattractive but the liquor was good enough to erase the memory of her high pitched screeching voice that had haunted me after the last excruciating argument that we ever had and our inescapable breakup. During the course of conversation I casually asked her why she nagged me so much, why she had been so freaking evil and mean to me and if she realized that was what drove me away. Her words almost brought me to tears. I still remember her exact words, she said that in her eyes she saw a perfect man, smart, strong, attractive, well read, humble, loving, honest, creative, funny, sexy, and inspiring. That she could actually see the hand of god at work in my creation. But that she knew when I looked in the mirror all that I saw was black man and all that white mainstream society imagines a black man to be. She said it would make her so angry to see a king play the role of a Jester that it would hurt her so deeply all she could do was lash out when I would do things that I should have known were beneath my true character.
I went home to Amy that night. I packed my things and left. I realized that I would hear these same white women reminisce with their BFFs about nagging their past white boyfriends and giving them hell about doing or not doing the same things that I would do as a Man. All that time that I thought I was getting away with something it dawned on me that these women didn’t just have a low expectation of me; these white women had NO expectation of me. There was no bar set. No need to ever raise it. They just didn’t want to be alone no matter the sacrifice, theirs knowingly or mine unwittingly. I can’t see truly loving someone and not pushing and supporting them to rise to their full potential.
These white women were so dogged by their previous white men. Cheated on, beat, raped, verbally, emotionally and mentally abused. They wanted to feel they had the upper hand on someone so why not black women. It’s an ego boost to any woman to tame the untamable or obtain something someone else wants. Black men are shown by society to be notoriously untamable so it’s a badge for white girls. I actually have known a couple of girls that were honest enough to admit this to my face. The easiest way to tame a slave was to let them believe they had their freedom and that they worked for massa by choice for their food, room and board and the slave family would serve for years as long as they didn’t MAKE massa hang’em by trying to run off before they had worked off their debt. White girls are doing the same thing to black men now. They give the black man the illusion of freedom by allowing little dalliances and misbehavings because they know it’s the best way to keep us coming back of our own free will. If we do run off, god forbid that it’s a community property state. Then they will clean house. If you are not wealthy enough or married to her she’ll make sure she at least sires you a child support check beneficiary. Not only that I’ve had a couple tell me that it proves to everyone else how cool she is, that she’s down and so special that black men throw themselves at her. I’ve had a white female colleague brag to me about how her black boyfriend just bought her a car but he’s dodging his baby’s momma’s request for financial assistance. She thinks it shows proves her worth that he’ll give up his child and the mother of his child just to have her on his arm. White women complain about the snotty remarks and dirty looks from black girls but the truth is they crave and revel in it. It makes them feel good because their own men tell THEM through the media and personal relationships that they are not skinny enough, curvy enough, strong willed enough, deep enough or worthy enough, exotic enough, confident enough for their undivided attention.
Look at Bill and Hillary Clinton, he walked all over her and she’s considered strong willed. They know they are viewed as disposable by their own men that trade them in like leased vehicles for newer more streamlined, fuel efficient or exotic models. Hell white men are even scooping up these disillusioned black females left behind by my misguided uninformed brothers. So why wouldn’t a white woman get with a man that inherently has something to prove, like the black man that is trying to prove he can have and is worthy of what the white man covets. White women pine for those “Eat your heart out” moments.
There is an understanding of who we are as black people that white people can never understand, this is obvious and we will never have the understanding of what it is to be white. People dismiss slavery in these discussions but it is a valid point that people never like to address because it is painful and embarrassing for both blacks and whites. It is painful and embarrassing to know that your great great great grandmother was raped repeatedly while her Black man could do nothing to save her. It is painful and embarrassing to know that your great great great grandfather beat, raped and sold off his own children as slaves. White women were seen as fragile and delicate, fainting for the mildest of reasons, their bodies so fragile they often died, were crippled or incapacitated by simple childbirth. Black women had to work fields, cook, clean and nurse the Missus’ children and tend her own home and children, even while with child. White women were coddled by their men that were sneaking out impregnating his slave women even at times his own slave daughters. These same white women welcomed their men home to their beds with the smell of forced sex still on them. These things are undeniable to the issue of interracial dating.
The reason for its relevance is that the same mentality still exists to this day. Watch your television and count the usually silent beautiful white frail women that you see clothed in white and bathed in glowing light enjoying life in leisure. They most often are portrayed as coy, reserved and demure and although they may discuss the rigors of housework, child rearing and physical labor they are rarely shown doing any. If you see a new fitness commercial, who’s jogging and eating Special K. Now, watch the commercials featuring black women. They are often physically seen cooking, cleaning, eating, cleaning, chasing after children, or being loud, funny, animated and sassy. More obvious are the music videos were white women are portrayed as an out of reach unobtainable object of affection and desire to be adored and worshipped. Switch from CMT to BET and you’ll see black women as property to be sexually used and dismissed, butts bouncing around barely clothed while the black men go from one to another passing the black girls to his friends. Do you really want to know why black women are so upset by seeing you white women with their men read this again and tell me that you didn’t know the answer deep down to begin with. It’s not jealousy it’s hurt, its abandonment, its disappointment, its rejection. Its women like this “disgusted” one that claims she’s in it for love and steals the opportunity to point out that she believes that being with a black man somehow proves that she is better than a black woman.
Black women are angry because this society and even some of her own men that she bore through turbulence and trouble look to her and say that she is not good enough, that she is not worthy of being placed on a pedestal, that she does not deserve to have her ego stroked, her feet kissed and worshipped at. That this country that she bore on her back, men born of her womb while the white women fainted from slight heat and tight corsets while she fascinated their men in the sheds, that she is not good enough to keep her own men, that she is somehow still less than the women that saw her oppressed and mocked her. This country was built by her sons torn from her arms moments after birth, her daughters being bedded barely at puberty, her body’s nourishment for her child being used for the child of the white woman who secretly beds her slave husband while massa is busy raping her and her daughters. These are her sons, these are her men and she has ever to be hurt, angry and mourn their loss but even more so she has every right to lay claim to them and trust me white women she does and will always get her man even if Miss Missy is temporarily keeping the bed warm for her. I have never in my 4 plus decades of life known of a black man to not return to his roots with a sister even if he felt he had to do it in secret. Just a heads up!
P.S. Arlishia and I have been married for 16 years and
I’m a black man and I’m proud to be one. I’ve dated black,white,mixed and asian. Its sad for me to say this but I’ve come to the conclusion that I have bad luck trying to get with black women and although I’ve been attracted to women of all ethnicities my whole life now I would prefer a woman of another race because i’m just burned out with black women. Nice guys always finish last when you deal with a black woman. I’ve noticed that alot of black women will consider a black man weak if he speaks with intelligence and make an honest living but they would consider a guy thats a thug to be strong because they feel some sense of protection. Its sad that black women will wait until their older with kids to want someone good and by then its too late. Not all black women act this way it just a huge majority. I’ve came across white women in public places that was respectful and nice to me and I was’nt even trying to approach them but it was the complete opposite with black women. If a man be polite and respectful to black women most of them will look at you like you are out of your mind. Black women tend to have strange standards in choosing a man for example, Michelle Obama said Barack played basketball with her brother craig and her brother said that Barack was a team player and he passed the ball and thought about his teammates, Hell she would’nt be in that white house if you had’nt given him a chance even if he did’nt decide to pass the ball she would have felt like a complete fool if she had’nt given Barack a chance. I would love to settle down with and start a family with someone outside of my race. This day and age you don’t have to marry your race. Back in the early 1900s Blacks stuck together because you would get lynched if you looked at a woman of another race its not like that these days. Today you can marry who ever you want and the people that don’t agree with it then those are the ones thats unhappy themselves.
I have never understood why people care so much who someone else dates. Every race has had past and or present struggles, most people have had their own personal struggles. We can’t we just respect the differences in each person? Women have issues with other women regardless of race I don’t understand why we can’t just respect each other. All women have qualities of beauty. We don’t need to be so critical of each other. Myself, I am white (Irish). I have dated within my own race and outside of my race. I look first for qualities I value in a man the color of his skin doesn’t matter (at least not to me). I am currently with a black man. I haven’t noticed reaction much from black women. I have more problems with white men and their reaction to us. I think I have heard just about everything anyone could say to a person but I really feel sad for the person that is so into my relationship instead of strengthing their own.
I’ve dated just about every race of woman out there. They all have issues of some sort and good qualities. They also express love and support. I don’t see all black women as strong. Some have no back bone and some do. Others are in between. White women are the same. I’ve seen some white women curse the hell out of a man then turn around and beat the **** out of him also. Look. We all have choices. If I CHOOSE to date a white woman, Oriental woman, Japanees Woman, or whom ever. That’s my business and I’m the one who will be with her and she with me. Others need to focus on their own relationships than be upset about who someone else choose as their potential life partner.
I have read all of these replies, and the following is all I have to say about the subject. STAY WITHIN YOUR OWN RACE!!! Neither race nor sex likes interracial dating and the children from those relationships suffer more than anyone else. There has always been black and there has always been white, let’s keep it that way.
Oh and further more, I refuse to date a woman that has dated outside of her own race. Tainted meat.
Black women are just as loose and easy. nowadays, when it comes to sex, you find freaks in all kind of race. Black men dates white women because we are tired and the nagging of the angry black woman. They have attitudes, likes to argue and picks fight. They don’t know how to submit to their husband like The Bible mentioned. Black men already have it hard for being a black men, we don’t want to come home to a nagging angry black wife.
Black men date white women because the white women listen to their s*** and take lots of stuff from them. Black women do not have time to listen and take care of them. Because we have to work and thank god that most black women take great care of themselves. Black men go with the white women who is skinny and has long hair after a few babies she looks like****. Then the black man wants to get rid of her and come black to the black women. I seen a talk show and they asked this black women how did she feel about Black men dating white women. Her answer was we (the black women didn’t want him anyway). so there you go. White men are racist as hell but they will pay money and turn tricks with you behind closed doors. for sure.
I have just read all 99 posts on here….I can’t believe that anyone that has ever experienced any racism would say such things about black or white…those of you that have posted such negative comments you are no different than the ones you are damming.
Women of all color have so many beautiful attributes…and the men as well. Women need to stand strong together instead of bashing one another for who they choose to be with…my skin is just as beautiful as yours, just as soft…and I am just as strong as the next strong WOMAN. We need to show respect, and teach our kids the same…that is only one of many things that need to change and put an end to all of this. I am “white” and married to a “black” man…we experience ignorance every day from both of our races and were both ashamed of them. We have both dated/married within our race, but chose to start our life together based on our love for one another, not the color of our skin. We have watched our families open their hearts to our interracial relationship and have seen so many changes. I have had the opportunity to love and share a part of my life with some incredibly amazing “black” women…they are like no other and I have nothing but respect and compassion for trials they have experienced! And my husband has had the chance to see that not all “white” people are alike…
I am trying hard not to ask…….but, how have some of you managed to convince yourself that you can determine if someone is ‘easy’ based on the color of skin? Or which ethnic group is a better lover? Another question: why do some black people assume that white people don’t know the history of blacks? Why do you believe that white women take crap off a black man? Or that it is the same as slavery?
I really hope you all do some serious soul searching.
i am a half AA and half latino, idated a hatian-black girl who like many of my other relationships, was always nagin me about what she wanted. Diamonds, 6000 sqaure foot home, BMW, nothin but the best as she said. finally i ended it. I am getting tired of controlling black women who want “the best” any body with me
I have seen and read the 2 articles time and time again. the disgusted white girl and the successful black man and I am in total agreement with the successful black man. I am a black woman and I am not jealous nor angry at any black man who dates a white woman. When I see an interracial couple, I make it a point to go out of my way to speak to her first to let her know that I am a very secure black woman to say the least and I have no problem with the situation. This will also come as a totally shock to you all and I wonder if any of you ever experienced this. I am a brown complexion black woman and my husband is a very dark successful black man, and my husband gets dirty looks from black men who are with white women. I often wondered why and I have come to the conclusion that the black man with the white women is mad because my husband found a beautiful strong black woman and he didn’t. Trust me disgusted white girl, you were not and will never be the first choice. He got with you just because he could not find one of us. And quiet as it is kepted white men prefer black woman over white woman, that are just too afraid of the black man and that is why they don’t pursue us as much, just as you white woman are afraid of black woman..I have white woman as some of my closest friends and my reasoning for knowing that the successful black man is speaking the truth because of my white woman friends, who don’t date black men and are married to white men, say to me all the time, Black woman are so beautiful and strong, and that we don’t age, our faces don’t crack, we can be 50 years old and look 30 years old. White woman on the other hand can be 30 years old and look 50 years old. White woman want so bad to have any and everything a black woman has, from our inner strength to our outer beauty. I don’t care how many black man you may sleep with and bring in the world biracial children, disgusted white girl, you will never be black, no matter how hard you try. One of the main things that bothered me the most about the disgusted white girl commnents is that she has heard all the negativity from her fiance about black woman – which I’m sure she truly enjoyed hearing – So that she could feel good about herself. Because truthfully that is probably the happiest moments in her life is when she hears some negative remarks about a black woman. In your closing remark, you stated If am wrong, black men let me know – Not once did you ever want to hear from a black woman – Why is that? Scared Perhaps?
i am so pleased i dont live in america, i am a strong white woman married for 5 years to a jamaican black man luckily neither of us share ur warped racist views. in england if a white woman is with a black man we dont think we are better then black women, same as my black female friends married to white men.
why is it women in america cant pull togther in every womans struggle to have equel rights to men. sadly a lot of females (of any colour) dont want a real relationship they go with men who treat them bad because
they dont have the self worth to find a real man! Every race has good and bad men blackmen are not just thugs and badman and not all white men are good by anymeans either. and for all those people who keep on about know ur history, it wasnt just white people who kept slaves and what about your african ancestors who sold african people to the british and the french and the spanish hello reality check and hitler didnt want to get rid of the black nose the holocost wasnt about black people it was about jewish people. like i said im so pleased i dont live in america with these dated and inacurate narrow minded views!
I am a white female and have dated a nigerian and an african american male. And it had nothing to do with their race, quite simply it was just chemistry and enjoying each others company. We don’t get to choose who we fall in love with, it just happens and whether the person be white/black/yellow native american indian a long as there is love at the end of the day. That’s all that should really matter.
ya know dis is all getting real old. why cant people accept that you dont own nor claim nobody. people live their lives striving for what makes them happy, and for the ones that arent…well you got bigger problems to come..but anywhozz who cares if they are black purple green whit gay straight whatever. if that person makes you happy so be it. there are just as many successfull individuals compared to fuckups in the world. and that includes all races. when are people goin to look at the individual instead of the outward appearance. i am Italian with a wonderful beautiful Italian/Black daughter that i raise on my own, does she see a difference in me n her……I think not..the only thing recognized in her eyes is the love she knows that will never go away…so to everyone in disagreement with what i had to say…..QUIT HATIN..LEARN TO LIVE YA OWN LIFE BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE IS ALL TO WORRIED ABOUT LIVIN YOURS..WE HAPPY WITH WHAT YOU GOT..NOW ITS YOUR TURN.
AMERICA WAS BUILT ON LIES AND WHITE PEOPLE. EVERYTHING IS A CONSPIRACY. HISTORY IS JUST THAT. HIS-STORY.(HINT,HINT). PEOPLE NEED TO RESEARCH. WE DONT TAKE YOUR HISTORY U TOOK OURS. BECUZ U DIDNT WANT US TO KNOW THE TRUTH ABOUT OURSELVES. WHITE WOMEN COMPLAIN ABOUT BLK WOMEN STARING AT THEM CUZ THEY WIT A BLK MAN. BUT I RECEIVE THOSE SAME STARES FROM WHITE WOMEN WHEN I’M WIT A BLK MAN/HUSBAND. LIKE THEY NEED TO HAVE ALL BLK MEN. I THINK SOME, NOT ALL, JUS DO IT TO PISS PEOPLE OFF AND ATTENTION. THEY’VE ALWAYS BEEN ENVIOUS WITH US. KNOW ALL YOUR HISTORY. BLK MEN WANT WHITE WOMEN BECAUSE THE WHITE MAN DIDNT ALLOW IT THEN WITHOUT BEING BEATEN, IMPRISONED, OR KILLED AND THERE IS NOTHING THAT THEY CAN DO ABOUT IT NOW. THAT IS WHY WE CALL THEM TROPHIES BECAUSE THE BLACK MAN FEELS AS IF HE ACHIEVED SOMETHING. A WAY OF SAYING “I WON.” THE WHITE MAN HAS ALWAYS, AND WILL ALWAYS CARE LESS ABOUT US “NEGROES.” WHITE WOMEN DATE BLACK MEN BECAUSE OF FORBIDDENESS AS A RESULT OF THE PAST AND OUR BEAUTIFUL DNA. AND BLACK WOMEN, AT LEAST MOST, ARE NOT JEALOUS. YES SOME HAVE CHILDREN YOUNG. BUT SO DO WHITE WOMEN, HISPANICS, ETC. BUT MAJORITY OF BLK WOMEN ARE IN THAT POSITION BECAUSE WE CHOOSE TO LAY IN THE BED WE MADE REGARDLESS OF THE STRUGGLES BECAUSE OF FAITH INSTEAD OF KILLING OFF OUR SEEDS AS MANY CAUCASION WOMAN. (NOW DO YOUR RESEARCH)I RATHER STRUGGLE TEMPORARILY ON EARTH THAN TO BE A MURDERER AND POSSIBLY CONDEMN MYSELF. IT SHOWS OUR STRENGTH. YES SOMETIMES WE CAN BE LOUD AND HIGH STANDARDS BUT WHAT DO U EXPECT WHEN U HAVE NONE. NOTHIN. MAYBE U RUN INTO A LOT OF BLK MEN WHO ARE WILLING TO “WINE AND DINE” YOU. BUT THEY KNOW THATS THE ONLY WAY TO GET TO YA’LL CAUSE IF THEY WERE BROKE WOULD THEY HAVE A CHANCE?ALL WOMEN GO THROUGH TRIALS YES. BUT AS WE KNOW AS YOU’VE ALL POINTED OUT WE HAVE IT HARD. NOT JUST BECAUSE OF OURSELVES BUT BECAUSE OF SOCIETY. OF COURSE BLACK WOMEN ARE MAINLY THE ONES ACKNOWLEDGING IT BECAUSE WE’RE THE ONE’S BEING EXCLUDED. WHITE WOMEN COULD CARE LESS CAUSE THEY HATE US SECRETLY. BLK MEN (SOME) JUST WANT AN EASIER LIFE. NOT ALL WHITE WOMEN ARE PUSH OVERS ITS JUST THAT IF YOU ARE TO FIND A NON AGRESSIVE WOMAN WHITE IS THE WAY TO GO. BLACK WOMAN(MAJORITY) WERENT HANDED A SILVER SPOON AND HAVE LEAD A DIFFICULT LIFE FROM BIRTH. ITS FUNNY HOW THE VERY THINGS A WHITE WOMAN HATES ABOUT ME OR ANOTHER BLK WOMAN IS THE VERY THING THEY HAVE TO SPEND HUNDREDS OR THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS ON. THE BIG BUTTS YOU SECRETLY WANT, FULL LIPS, PROPORTIONATE THICKNESS(NOT SLOPPY). I SEE WHITE WOMEN WHO WARE WEAVE ALOT THEY JUST THINK NO ONE WILL NOTICE. TRY TO USE URBAN SLANG. EVEN BE WEARING HAIRSTYLES THAT BLK WOMEN WEAR, VARIETY OF SKIN COMPLEXION NATURALLY TANNED. I DONT BYE THAT “IT BRINGS OUT MY GREEN EYES’ CRAP. WEAR MASCARA THEN. HOW CAN WE NOT MISTAKE IT FOR ENVY OF US. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. HOW CAN THE VERY THING YOU SAY U HATE BE THE VERY THING YOU DESIRE. THE CLOSEST I’VE COME TO ALTERING MYSELF IS STRAIGHTENING MY HAIR. I’M NEVER JEALOUS, YES I HAVE A HUSBAND. ONE WHO’S EDUCATED, BEAUTIFUL, EMPLOYED AND TAKES CARE OF BOTH HIS CHILDREN. YES IM EDUCATED AND AM MARRIED TO THE FATHER OF MY CHILDREN. ONLY ARE US BLK WOMEN DISGUSTED WHEN YOU DISOWN YOUR OWN ROOTS. SO ASHAMED OF YOUR COLOR THAT YOU TRY TO WASH IT OUT OF YOUR DNA TRULY LEAVING NO LEGACY BEHIND. IM NEVER CALLED RACIST. I SPEAK THE TRUTH THROUGH OBSERVATION AND RESEARCH. IT IS AND IF IT SOUNDS RACIST THEN MAYBE SOCIETY SHOULD CHANGE. TRYING TO TURN BLACK AGAINST BLACK. SEPERATION DARKER AND LIGHTER. SHAME ON EVERY ONE. THE ONLY TRUE HISTORY IS THE BIBLE. READ BETWEEN THE LINES. EVERYTHING IS PREDICTED. GET YOUR MINDS RIGHT BEFORE THE TRUE JUDGEMENT DAY PEOPLE.
I’d like to chime in and say from personal expirence black women have such bad attitudes. I am a black man married to a white woman, I’ve dated black women in the past. The main issue i had is an “I’m a queen” attitude. No matter how well they were treated it just was not enough, so I decided to date women of other races and fell in love with a white woman. Its not a matter of being able to walk all over anyone (if you treat your partner like that they should leave you) it is just a bit eaiser not having to ARGUE all the time about nothing and a black woman knows just what to say to drive her man up a wall. The whole “Im a queen” attitude needs to go out the window along with us as a people holding on to all the horrors of the past (slavery ended over 150 years ago). It’s time to move on and date whoever you want and for whatever reasons you like. Holding on to things like this keeps us back as a people. We are free yet most of us squander all the opportunities given to us. We can’t use the “man” as an excuse forever. Show your strength by moving on.
This comment is for BLACK ROYALTY – oh stop it! As usual, a black person has turned his comments into the same, tired argument over slavery……for your information, most people that are alive today were not alive in the slavery era!!!! Move on off it!
I first think that people, any person should date who ever they want… I think we should not use excuse of black women are queens. We are queens in our own ways, we have had to deal with a lot and still we rise, you cant catorize a few relationships on saying this. However if you really want to go there… I say that black men are very irresponsible. They don’t take care of there children they plant there seeds everywhere and have no responsibility. Another instead they want to talk about the white man. We can all put marks on each other….if your mother not a queen. Not saying her attitude but she should conduct herself like one and you should treat her like one, not the case with black men they treat black women like a dog and then when they get white women they think of them as the queen… believe me there is drama from every race. I think its so sad when you have black men when they get money they date out side there race,, uuhum let see, Tiger Woods Ice-T, Seal, Cuba Gooding Jr., Montel, , barry bonds, reggie bush, the list goes on and on the point is marry for love not for skin color, good hair, mixed baby’s that is so superficial… if you were married to a black women and had a little girl she grows up and says she didn’t not want to date black men.. You would ask her why… think about it… does she see how you treat your wife and how you talk to her. I think about hally Barry one of the most black beautiful women dated black men/married look how they treated her, so guess what she did got her a white man and so much is perceive about what we see on TV. most of the time you see white women on TV, look at the cheerleaders, Victoria secret,, most of the starts on TV on white, no wonder why black men want a white women they have been programmed by what they see on TV.. No black women… I personally am a black woman but look mixed so I don’t care either way, and have 3 kids by 3 no good black men who I had to fore to pay child support, didn’t have to force them to have sex though and with my son he has not seen his father for 13 years, oh but he also has another black son, but he did marry a white women and has 2 kids by her, but never really see his other 2 black sons.. the generational curse continues.. so know I don’t want another black man… but it would be nice if all the black men got all the white women then maybe the white men will come to the other side and see how good it is….
• There are several reasons why it’s perceived to be hard to date black women, but that perception is based primarily on stereotypes and misunderstanding. Black women are as uniquely individual as any other demographic category of people and should be treated as such. One of the biggest mistakes that men make when dating black women is in treating them as an object, instead of as a woman. Any man desiring to have a strong relationship with any woman had better understand that he must first get to know that woman as an individual. Each individual is different, and that includes women of the African American community black women have long been unfairly stereotyped. Those stereotypes have come and gone with generational changes in society, from the “mammy” type image presented in the first moving pictures, to the booty-shaking “hood girls” of today’s music videos. And, with each new generation comes a new perceived image of the black woman, regardless of how diverse those women live. The history of black women in America has seen them as slaves, caretakers, washwomen, maids, teachers, nurses, businesswomen, ministers Black women were once thought of as the hard working nucleus of the black family. They were viewed as church going matriarchs, who suffered through worthless men, and in more cases than not, raising children on their own. They were thought to have had limited education, subjecting them to mostly low skill service oriented jobs working either in factories or for white families, where white women are perceive and beauty queens, very small and sleek, long hair and sexy.
RIDICULOUS. I am a white woman married to a black man. We have two daughters together. I am not and have never ever been easy or docile. Why in the world would anyone date a single race only. Your perfect mate could be black white asian or latin. So why limit based on a thin layer of colored tissue. REALLY??? Lots of women are easy of all cultures and races. PUHLEASE. Face it black ladies and date all kinds of men. You could find your king has japanese roots. or Decended from the ancient Myans. Grow up people. Get over a simple coloring of the outside dermis.
I think it is sad that so many people of both races don’t seem to care at all about their heritage. It is a slap in the fact of your own people when you date outside your race, regardless of which race you are. Due to an unfair advantage that started in the late 80′s and has grown into a conspiracy, black people are the “choosen” people of the world right now. White men can’t even get a job w/o filling out an affirmative action sheet. White males are purposely shunned by many companies. Black people are given all the government grants and scholarships so they can get an education. Liberals hate the white male because we are in the way of their leftish agenda. Therefore they have set out to destroy our culture. They finance interacial porn in mass, which has helped to make it “acceptable” for white women to be w/ black men. By always promoting blacks over white males, the black man is doing pretty good financially nowadays, which was all part of the conspiracy. Black men have the secret thing that all white women crave = money and power. In 1990, you might see 1 black person in every 7 or 8 commercials. (This is fair, they are a minority). Mexicans today are rarely in commercials because liberals cant use them since they care to much about their own people to intermix (and yes, the language barrier helps with this). Today, blacks are in every single commercial. Marxist political correctness is the left’s way of doing this under the table. They do the same thing at the christmas season by changing the p.c. word to use to “holiday”. They are out to destroy the white man’s culture and they use the black man as a pawn. True, up until about 1984, blacks were definetly getting the short end of the stick (deserved in part to their actions). So in a sense, I don’t blame them for cashing in on an opportunity to get ahead that has been unfairly given to them on a silver platter by liberal elites. However, it has gone too far and is the reason america went broke and is going down the tubes morally.
The people who participate in intermixing should be ashamed of themselves ! What a disgrace to their own people !
To keep it short and simple. No matter what race you are you should be interested in a person for who they are and whats inside the skin. ( NOT OUTSIDE) Im a black man and if I choose to date a different race that is my preferance. If we as people live in the past we will never work toward a great future. So I encourage all races to be diversified. Love has no color!!
love has no color…love is beautiful..
Dear Sister2Sister:
The reason Black men date White Women is the reason I date Asian women—FOR THE STATUS IT CONFERS!!!
Colin Powell, Michael Jackson, Tiger Woods, OJ Simpson (ya’ll remember him–the black community rendered its garments over how innocent he was…then he published his autobiography “If I Did It”…), Fill in the Blank (get the sexual pun?!!! Ha, Ha, Ha) dated White Women because they are fine, rare and super hard to obtain. Hey, if I made more than $10.00 an hour, I’d be sniffin’ after some white poontang too!!! I recall the old jewish proverb: Marry a White Woman, Screw an Asian Woman, Car date the rest!!!
Seriously. I love dating Asian Women not because I find them particularally ATTRACTIVE or more Beautiful but for the STATUS they confer. You take a BEAUTIFUL Asian woman into a resturant and all the guys in the room will Hi Five You/Winking at you as all the White women will be muttering unkind things about your date. It’s called the Thailand Syndrome. An Asian Woman will do to you what NO Self-Respecting White Woman will do to you—at least not without a new fur coat, a new sports car and a wedding ring thrown in. THAT, Ms. Sister2Sister is STATUS; That Ms. Sister2Sister is POWER!!! That is why I have Yella Fever and ain’t takin’ my Quinine Pills!!!
I once did a business lunch in a RITZI Resturant with an Asian Banker I won’t name. Suffice it to say, she was georgeous, learned and made seven figures. Some white woman came up to us and said “Mister, this is a RESPECTABLE PLACE—you can’t bring a woman like her in here!!!” I expected the Banker to ‘tear ‘Whitey’ a second asshole’ . Instead, she grabbed my arm and began shouting “ME NO GO. ME NO GO. GI#1.” I was SHOCKED and didn’t know what to say. I then reached for my wallet, opened it and started pointing at my driver’s license as I sobbed “PLEASE LADY, Don’t let my wife!!! She catches me screwing around again, she’ll leave me for sure!!! Don’t do it for me, do it for Paco and Taco and Guadalupi and Josephina and little Xocilimio. Then I fell to my knees and started sobbing hysterically while the banker kept shouting “Me No Go. GI #1″. JESUS, The Look on that White Woman’s face—WAS PRICELESS!!! I thought she’d have a stroke. Who needs ‘Dinner Theatre’ when you just need the right ‘dinner companion’
I can’t understand why if being with whom ever you choose to be with as far as a relationship matters to anyone really. If ppl were truly able to date without these idiotic limitations when it comes to race…be with who you want to be with. The weak arguement about don’t exclusively choose one race of women/men over another kills me because if you see a person dating outside of my race it’s automatically assumed that i have chose that race exclusively when you may have found the one for you when you have tried others. But i think there are great black white brown yellow women in this world. I don’t choose exclusively because you’re all the same but individual at the same time. I am single now and have been loved sexed hurt confused by multi racial/cultural women…conclusion. Find who makes you happy your preference is your business….all haters stand below. I won’t say that one group is more right than the other group or race or whatever this gang mentality country prepetuates. May you all learn to love each other despite your differences and let each other live. I think that is the true test of humanity…
I don’t understand why people make such a big deal about interracial dating. What is this, 1967? I am a white girl (mixed with native american but probably about 75% white) who has dated out of my race as well as in my race. I am currently dating an African American man who I adore and not because he’s African American but because he adores me and makes me feel beautiful and is intelligent and kind. Yet, the other day as we were visiting his parents, a woman glared at me and muttered something about white women stealing the ‘good black men’. I was upset by the comment and shared this with my boyfriend who said that was normal. I think this is strange because my father is white and my stepmother is an African American women and I’ve never heard a white woman say ‘god those black women always steal the good white men’. I understand that the situations are different, but I do believe we should all just respect each other as people.
Also, my ancestors never owned slaves. We’re a family of poor Jewish and Irish immigrants mixed with decimated Cherokee and I find it insulting to say that we are a weak race. I have worked my entire life and never taken crap from anybody! My boyfriend says that I am strong and that he has deep respect for me, and to have somebody judge me by the color of my skin without ever speaking to me or knowing anything about me is rude and presumptuous. I have also been mistaken as middle eastern and hispanic (because I take after my Native American and mediterranean ancestors) and have been judged as those races, and think that prejudging anybody based on skin color is wrong. So please, judge people on character, not on race.
In this day & age it’s real sad that people are still talking about race when it comes to dating. I feel that a person should be able to date who they please. I’m a Black man that’s secure with myself that’s dated outside my race( Black,White, Latin, Asian) & it has nothing to do with race. I’ve grown up around a lot of different cultures & have friends of many backgrounds. I think it’s a bunch of BS about a black man being too insecure to date our own race.(or at least speaking for myself). Every race have women that’s pretty,crazy, loose or whatever. Love has no color or bounderies. If people could put the same energy in to being
positive as they do on hatin on others we would all be a lot better off. I don’t worry or care what others think especially if they don’t know me…..When will people wake up!!
I have read this at work, cause it was passed along to each and every black woman I work with.
I can say that I do agree with Black Royalty 100%. I don’t think anyone cared about her dating a black man,except if she started dating him in the 80′s or
90′s then I could see it! If that black man told her all that she claimed he said.. Then he needs
his BAK!!
Look, all who ever talks about race should realize that race is an invention of the caucasian mind, no offense, but it’s true. Instilled into the conciousness of the global masses. In this infinite Universe race does not matter, it does not exist, it’s an illusion. right and wrong does not exist. It his how we percieve it to be. live your life and let others live theirs and be with whom ever they want. mind your business and move forward with all peoples into a positive future. African americans still carry the trauma of their past, this is why they will never be free. If you want to be free; stop making excuse for the struggles you,ve been through. as if your the only ones. All peoples on planet earth went through some kind of struggle. If African American men or women want respect for who they are, then look in the mirror and see why you self perpetuate racism against you. if you cannot see this or believe this somehow, then something is wrong. Not only caucasians have racism against you, but other ethnic groups as well. even Africans from Africa who come to live in the U.S are displeased with they way you act in puplic and in the media. Also Caribbean people of african descent see your behaviors.
All peoples are devine and have something special to contibute to the betterment of all HUMANS. And you wonder why we as humans cannot come together and look past our differences. Hmmmm. One of Bob marley’s parents was a Caucasian, yet you listen to his music and say one love, lets get together and feel alright. Yet you as African Americans forget that tiny little lesson taught in the song. Hmmmmmm. There are African Americans who know exactly what I mean in this blog. they looked at themselves through the eyes of the Universe not the color they are or what kingly or queenly heritage the possess.
Color does not exist there is no such thing. Again a caucasian tool designed to separate all peoples of the world with an illusion.
I am nor “BLACK, WHITE, YELLOW, RED, BROWN, BLUE, or GREEN. Just a devine “BE-ING” in the womb of this vast Universal training ground. In Khemet, we say Hetepu, and may Maat guide all peoples to eternal life and happiness.
Wow! America this is sad very sad…thank God I grew up in a Country where they were no prejudice or hate. People why cant you all get along? Please do respect yourselves and each other, life is too short to be hating on each other no matter what race, color or creed that you are! God is a God of love…he made each and everyone of us, just like his beautiful garden in heaven, and the color of the rainbow he want us all to shine. It does not matter who you want to date, the main purpose is to be happy and enjoy this beautiful life that he has given to each and everyone of us. We all are one and of the human race and lets try to make this a better place for our Childrens Children so that they may know that hate is not the answer but LOVE is!
I em a Russian/Italian man who just recently married a beautiful black woman and i’ve got to say its mostly based on preferance..although i’ve dated plenty of italian and russian girls (both white) i ended up with a black wife. Basically most people dont know how to accept interracial couples or respect both sides. I respect a person for their character not their color and this is why I have many friends that are black, white, asian, lationo etc. My advice to all you people who are simply adding speculation to the issue and differences of race, is to stop spreading hate and learn to look past various skin tones just as the Lord would have us do. May God Bless everyone!
You’re all making ZIONIST MONEY.
for those who knows what i’m talking about
Caribbean Queen
Wow! America this is sad very sad…thank God I grew up in a Country where they were no prejudice or hate. People why cant you all get along? Please do respect yourselves and each other, life is too short to be hating on each other no matter what race, color or creed that you are! God is a God of love…he made each and everyone of us, just like his beautiful garden in heaven, and the color of the rainbow he want us all to shine. It does not matter who you want to date, the main purpose is to be happy and enjoy this beautiful life that he has given to each and everyone of us. We all are one and of the human race and lets try to make this a better place for our Childrens Children so that they may know that hate is not the answer but LOVE is!
Posted on 24-Mar-10 at 6:24 am | Permalink
123. Moses Osipovich
I em a Russian/Italian man who just recently married a beautiful black woman and i’ve got to say its mostly based on preferance..although i’ve dated plenty of italian and russian girls (both white) i ended up with a black wife. Basically most people dont know how to accept interracial couples or respect both sides. I respect a person for their character not their color and this is why I have many friends that are black, white, asian, lationo etc. My advice to all you people who are simply adding speculation to the issue and differences of race, is to stop spreading hate and learn to look past various skin tones just as the Lord would have us do. May God Bless everyone!
Posted on 30-Mar-10 at 8:04 pm | Permalink
Look Caribbean Queen, Moses Osipovich and all others. you guys forget, don’t know or logically contemplated the thought. but still foolishly follow a christian religeon or whatever denomination, that was,
1. created/penned by CAUCASIANS,
designed to separate peoples regardless of belief, subjegate all, still supresses women, create fear, closed mindedness in all ranges.
the UNIVERSE is way too BIG and VAST to be caring for such “NON”-SENSE.
qestion your sense of “REALITY”
I’ll be surprised if some of you are on this blog or posts a comment, or new commers who actually realizes their devine GODness when they look in the mirror everyday.
Not some confusing, un-desiferable BLACK COLORED book with no clear answers to life’s mysteries with a cross on it..
Still stressing COLOR of skin people, Still stressing BIBLE people.
Like you all care what im trying to get you to contemplate on.
Thats OK.
All I know is what’s true when I look at the planets and the stars, and all possible beings out there in the UNIVERSE to love.
If I met a female from another planet, who is spiritual, vey intelligent, which is usaully so, loving, caring, understanding, hot,
open minded, no religeos indoctrinating garbage and did’nt carry all the BUL***** drama that most of you humans have…
Definitely be with her, have children and, lover her FOREVER without any inhibitions or mental dualities, HUMANS POSSESS.
EriSalem
Seriously… “Black Royalty” you are laughable.
Erisalem you are the fool, not because some of the things you say aren’t true but because you think so little of yourself, it’s true that blacks from other countries look down on black from here , however it is also true that ” black people of America threw our courage and strength created the civil/human rights movement that enable blacks white asian hispanic and most other people of the world to be hold their heads up”. So if some jerk in Egypt dreams they could ever hold they’re little racist heads high enough please go on. Our history must start here but it will not end here for we are a people with no boundaries or limits we are the America blacks the freedom fighters, inventors and the framers of a new world Constitution.
i think a black man who is 55years old who has sex with 20 year old white gril , has lost his mind . and noone esle want him how would he feel if someone was that age going with his daugther20 , that is a sick person , the white gril has mess her life up, noone gonna want her ,after that , she must be hard up to, dady dating daugther, sick sick sick , need some help
This message is for Black Royal.. I am a white woman married to a black man.. Ask him if he thinks I am docile or “EASY”.. He will tell you “HELL NO.” He might “think” I am, but let me find him cheating or stealing my money!!! I will say, that a black man thinks that he can pull more shit on us white women, but like I said try it!! It is the narrow minded ignorance of people like you that make us white women want to throw soda cans at Tiger Woods today while he plays golf!!
I am a black man married to a white woman. She lets me do anything I want. She does not work and she is on the “crazy check”. She stays at home and takes care of our two girls. I am moving up in my career and finding that I am outgrowing this relationship. I love my girls, but I don’t find my wife attractive anymore. She has put on alot of weight and just sits on a computer all day. Looking for some love..
Reverse psychology is crazy. It’s all mental. Truth and logic is objective. Materialism, lust, and paganism is worse than racism. This life is deceiving. Financial success is as lowly as physical beauty and carnal pleasure. It’s deceiving. We should at least try to be respectful of what’s greater and feel sorry if we aren’t. Profound freedom is freedom from sins. Superficial freedom is freedom from carnal and personal sufferings/disagreements. Profound freedom is what we need most.
well this will not be as long as other entries. I just don’t have as much to say.
To the white woman who wrote the first post… Love is blind sure but don’t be fooled when he tells you that pickings are slim when looking for black girls.. too fat etc.. thats pillow talk to get into your pants and nothing more.
Next do keep in mind that the well known saying “when you go black you never go back” Was a statement created by black males after sleeping with white woman in a way to show disrespect towards the white woman and the white men. It’s meaning has been skewed ( i guess by the white women involved) to mean that black men are such good lovers that they would never go back to their own race. I guess when faced with humilation by their black lover and isolation from their own culture the meaning was changed to save face.
The truth of the matter is when mixing races there will be conflicts. I am not against it but it is not natural period. Now before any of you jump up and scream racism listen to this first
There is a big difference to racism and race preservation many will confuse the two not seeing the difference.
Example:I bet there are many of you (in any culture) that have true good friends out side of their race. Yet if they see a mixed couple something inside them feels out of place. It is a natural biological feeling that no matter how tolerant you are of peoples differences it can not be dismissed.
Have you heard of your biological clock? you can’t explain it just sometimes it kicks in and leaves you wanting.
As i said people can fall in love it is blind but many people choose lust or status and often that is the motivator for interracial relations not love.
I date whoever fits.
What is this racist ********? Both letters back and forth are so closed-minded holy ****. Christ never asked us to stay within a race or hate each other based on some uncontrollable and irrelevant factor. There is culture difference but that depends on so many different factors; not always your color/hair/body type. What a big ******* generalization. There is no love in any of that. Love is about that person, not why one psychologically categorized group of people is better or worse than another.
“Reeko”, that makes you sound like a pig.
What does her being white have to do with anything? It sounds like a ****** relationship that you should get out of rather than cheating your way out of.
Boy oh boy this crap seems to never amaze me, still talking about white women are easy & blah blah blah in the other hand black women are classy they dont give h**d & blah blah YET u look around u see black teens with a kid or kids? at 14-16 yrs old Oh wait black women are different right? if they have kids its ok when a white woman does shes easy & a hoe? Lol@these fools making black women out to be some godesss LMAO ok if u say so u are successful because u took it upon yourself and made yourself a better person not because of your damn skin color see racists starts because idiots uses skin colors to create drama..GROW UP!
And another point whats with this oh white women are fat & ugly? doesn’t it swing also towards black women? Don’t anyone see a fat ugly black women dating some goofy looking white guy with glasses or some fat one? OH but thats only for white women who dates black men Now whose calling the kettle burned? like I said grow up this crap is sooooooo old & boring not to mention so dayum lame if a person wants to date outside their race so be it lol not like they are going to allow some stranger worried them LOL..Ya’ll want to start drama for pete sakes use some newer insults ths is just as old as your great great grand parents LOL
As an educated African American woman, I believe that all of us belong to one race – the Human Race! God created all of us, and he made us look different because we are all unique creations. We should all love one another as God loves us. If black men date white women or women of other ethnicities that’s fine with me. As long as they love each other. It doesn’t put me at a disadvantage because there are plenty of men on this earth of different ethnic groups that will gladly choose to be with a beautiful, intelligent woman like myself. If we are all honest – all of us just want to be loved, so skin color shouldn’t be a barrier.
oh, and I almost forgot. Some of my family members are with white or hispanic/latino women. They have great relationships, and they didn’t choose them because they dislike black women or because of any of the negative stereotypes mentioned here! They chose to be with those women because that was the person whom they had chemistry with. Those women are thier soulmates! Having a lasting, loving, understanding relationship with someone is what we are all looking for. However, if we limit our dating pool to those of our own race, we limit our chances of finding true love!
Post a Comment